'Impossible to live with' ?

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Mom occasionally tells me that I am 'impossible to live with'. Anyone else get that from anyone, family or roommates?

Not me

I don't think my mother ever said that in words. she said it by throwing me out of the house. I was around 14 the first time it happened, and she threw me out by my hair in my nightgown after insisting that because I had a job I should pay rent, and I tried to resist her bullying by arguing my case, and it degenerated into a fistfight. I guess that's basically saying I was impossible to live with. eventually I lived with whoever would take me in.

I haven't spoken to my mother in 13 years and she still doesn't understand why

I had some problems with room-mates later on. I was so sensitive to noise but didn't realize it was my problem, so it caused friction when I felt they weren't being considerate. now I think it's important to only live with people who can tolerate/accommodate me, as well as me being able to tolerate/accommodate them.

maybe you and your mom should have a talk about tolerance and accommodation. it could be you could both do things to make the situation smoother.

I am an NT male who is married to a lovely, recently dxd AS female. She was dxd about 8 months ago. She accepted her dx & started taking anti anixiety meds. Both of our lives have improved 100%. Before she was dxd though, yes, she was very hard to live with at times. Hell yeah. She would be the first to tell you. We joke about it now but really, it was a challenge. And not just for me. For the handful of previous unsuccessful relationships she had as well.

If you're someone who has been dxd w/AS and someone is telling you that you are a pain in the ass to live with IMO it wouldn't be much of a stretch. Believe me, and believe them.

I have said these words to my now grown daughter, because we are both AS. I have to be organized and neat, while she is a pack rat and very poorly organized. I once cut my foot on a broken light bulb on her bedroom floor, and had to go to the hospital. We are somewhat estranged, now, and it hurts that we can't get along. But I can't function in chaos and disorder.

Well they never say it, but I am quite certain a few roommates have found me a little strange or difficult to live with. Ultimately I know I need my own space and have limited contact if I am to live with others. Eventually I plan to have my own house, but for now I am happy where I am.

They don't have to say it to me, I already know that I am...

I'm not a pack rat though I do have quite a number of things. Mom on the other hand I SWEAR has OCD about neatness. She's in denial about that though. It's not like my room is 'dirty' though it does have some clutter in it. But she's terrified that I'll go the way of a cousin of hers who I SWEAR was on the spectrum (he is dead now), who was a serious pack rat and lived in unhealthy conditions which contributed to his death.

Nope.My landlady even said, after I am finished schooling, I am welcome to stay and rent longer since I am not any trouble at all when it comes to noise and cleanliness....mainly cuz I never have any dishes due to eating out all the time LOL.

I have never gotten that, although i have found i can't live with other people. I am way too particular of things and if something is moved, i get all p*ssed off. Bf's mom lives with us and i told him she's gotta go! But there are more issues with her than moving something. Bf doesn't move anything, heck, he won't even pick up after himself, so he is ok and can stay LOL!

Both my mother (and my wife) said (and say) that. It's difficult to live with you. Actually I say to my mother. "You made me". And to my wife "You married me". And to both: "You like me because I'm in that way". In Italy we say something that in english should sound like: "You can't have the wife drunk and the bottle filled up at the same time".

My ex-flatmate - who bullied me so badly over my AS, to the point that I was signed off sick from work and was seriously contemplating suicide - used to say I was impossible to live with. I would bend over backwards to accommodate everything she said in an effort to just get along, including doing the cleaning *twice* (she always said that it was never good enough), gave up cooking because she always complained that I hogged the kitchen, never watched TV or DVDs in the lounge (although it was my gear, and she had her own in her room, she'd always come in and change the channel because there was always something on she wanted to watch!), rarely spoke to her (though she had no qualms about giving me hour-long lectures on the most pointless topics), and towards the end didn't even come out of my room except to go to work.

It was pretty awful - no matter how accommodating I tried to be, she got worse and worse. I thought I was being more than reasonable. Every time I stood up for myself she just slapped me down.

I'm glad I have my own place now. She's the one who's impossible to live with.

yes. or something similar to that. my mother is a selfish person though, it's her way or the highway. and her way is often illogical and petty. honestly if she made an effort, i would, too.