Does your sense of humor hurt other people?

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I guess I have a pretty "zany" and sarcastic sense of humor. I can make people ROFL when I want to but my humor isn't always appropriate. It's not like I don't know when I might be hurting someone, it's just that I don't realize the extent of it until people act cold toward me or someone actually tells me that my sarcasm is bordering on nastiness. I can control it for awhile, but eventually I cross the line again without even knowing it. It's like I can hilarious to some people and eventually alienate others with my humor or not be funny at all. I do have a concept of where the line should be drawn, I just think it's different than most people's.

I'm the same way.

it's because they also look at our faces, and we usually don't understand or express well that it was a joke. to tell a joke that may be perceived badly, nonverbal communication is important as well....which usually we lack in.

That makes subtle and wry humor work so well for us, which I find hilarious.

You mean like when I described a Jewish friend as "having a schnoz* like Concorde"? Is that what you mean?

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That might be one reason I have received so many insults in the past. I might have done something similar, yapped on and on, insulting people without even being aware, and then crying when they insulted me. I had no idea what I had done to merit such responses, so I convinced myself they were heartless and mean. Maybe they were responding to something I had said without realizing it would rub them the wrong way.

Oh well. It's water under the bridge, anyway.

Exactly. I'm always aware that I may be offensive to some people because I say whatever I want for the most part but I'm never sure exactly which things I'm saying might offend people, unless it's blatantly obvious.

I have to agree with what you've said. It pretty well applies to me, though 20 or so years of retail selling has taught me how to control it all. Step outside of work and the masquerade is off though.

I figure if a person is gonna take something that I may say that serious, then probably they're too serious about things anyways, and *shrug* tough titty for them.

I've gotten away from expressing my humour with others, especially those that aren't close friends, that know me well enough to know if it sounds like it's supposed to hurt, it's a joke... period.... I guarantee you that if i'm trying to hurt your feelings you'll have no doubt whatsoever what i'm doing... there won't be any question of "was that a joke, or was he insulting me?" A spade is a spade, and I'll have no part of making it sound pretty when it ain't.

So for the most part, i keep my weird convoluted humour to myself. I do have other friends that understand it very well, even though they're NT's... Though to be honest, the one that understands it the best... Might get him to take the aspie test, cause... though I've never thought about it till now, and he's always saying that he thinks he's ADD ... Perhaps.... I'll have to give him some stuff to read anyways.

So take this as a warning, my humour WILL be sarcastic at time, and not always easy to identify as a joke.. but if i'm insulting you... believe you me, You WILL know it!

No. Other people's sence of humor offends and hurts me.

I try not to. I have very little respect for people who use others as butts for their jokes. Fine if you're a comedian and people are paying for it, but in day to day life it's a bit obnoxious.

Constantly. I usually don't know what the hell to say, so I'll make lots of jokes when people expect me to talk, but I'm so removed from the emotional aspect of it that sometimes...maybe most of the time...I wind up saying horrible things. But I actually like most people I meet. I'm just at this remove from taking their quirks too seriously and instead find them sort of enjoyable to observe and play with. I guess it's kind of like what this cartoonist said about his sarcastic girl character, that she doesn't really hate everything, she's actually delighted by everything. I think I have the instincts of a cartoonist and view the world in a funny way that can be hurtful without me realizing it.

Not so much anymore. I reign myself in a lot. I mean seriously. I metaphorically straitjacket and muzzle myself before I go anywhere there's people.

Maybe not hurt, but confuse. They often don't understand what I mean.

That's basically me to a "T". I love teasing, being sarcastic, witty, and dry, and poking fun at each other...but most people don't have the same sense of humor.

Right? There are a select few that understand me and truly appreciate it but even close friends have expressed to me that they didn't like the way I was acting before and I REALLY thought that they knew where I was coming from. Other people have described me as very negative in the past, I thought they understood my sarcasm too. I think that sometimes people just pretend to get it because they don't want to deal with me and I don't pick up on it, but I'm much better than I was in my younger days. I hope = /