No idea how the world sees me physically.

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Having no understanding of most social cues, I have no idea if there is ever reciprocated attraction. As lonely as a I get feeling like nothing more than an observer, I feel so out of my league in many cases that I feel too out of my league to show some initiative. I've attached my photo what do you think, is my insecurity keeping me from making an uncomfortably forward jerk of myself? So many times, I can completely relate to every word of Radiohead's Creep.

The photos, temporarily at one of my old webpages at www.kcolemanillustration.com/artichoke .

I guess that makes two of us. welcome to WP.

You look fine for the most part. Your face is bit expressionless though.

Welcome to the club ! I cannot tell how I am viewed due to my physical attributes either (this became an obsession of fine due to wanting to be able to read people rather than magnetize myself a love interest )...
You look fine, looks like you have good hygiene (only thing that really bothers me is bad hygiene). I personally do not really care about the way a person looks in general, I prefer to get to know them. But I have two exceptions that may seem contradictory, I have noticed my eye contact issues are less severe w/ those who I know well &/or if they have dark eyes (this I have no explanation for ) & I prefer when a person's physique matches their personality (relaxed people w/ relaxed bodies type of thing).

You look fine- perfectly normal. But a still photograph can't show how you interact with other people, which I would assume is where your difficulties are.

You look OK to me. Neat, tidy, well groomed, clean There is nothing about your look that is off putting to me. I think most people would talk to you. Of course that is just your look, cannot tell anything else about you from a photo.

Hope this helps

Cheers

You look cool and clean cut, it's obviously not an outside issue.
You show a lot hope though, to begin with you are relatively young to recognize the insecurity thingie, and grown up enough to admit it, that's a hell of a good start. Seeking help and advice from others certainly won't hurt your ambition, so from the sounds of it, you're on a roll and solid as a rock, patience is an acquired virtue.

OH, about the picture, such a close up can be intimidating to some, or it could just be me.

I don't have any video, but most of what I say in public, I've spent like ten or twenty minutes thinking out how to put it perfectly. With the many variables of unforeseen responses, the whole situation easily spins out of control. For that reason, I don't speak up too much. I try to take that extra step in helping others, such as donating twenty dollars each Thanksgiving to have a deliver delivered to someone suffering from AIDS, but often when hearing something like "thank you", I'm not sure if it is not more than reflexive.
As I stated previously, I get a little obsessed about trying to perfect myself, hair products, trying to get into the rhythm of at home exfoliation. Being an illustrator with low muscle tone, I've always been trying to perfect myself physically. Its one of the reasons why I feel most at home and completely refreshed when I go to this up scale hair salon in Boston every five weeks. Like its a place where so many people are artists on one level or another. Some may think I'm materialistic, but I'm just a flawed man who dreams of looking good all through out life like George Clooney or Paul Newman.

I wrote about this on another WP discussion and here it is again.
I am an Aspie but my son is very NT. My son looks almost identical to me when I was his age. My son is a regular Casanova. He has had ladies after him since he was in his early teens. The first woman I kissed on the lips was my first wife and I was twenty-three at the time. I won’t go into the very embarrassing and pathetic details of my life. You look like a regular person but believe me looks has very little to do with it. It’s not what the package looks like but how you present it. It is amazing how much BS NT women will swallow. I know because I saw my son feed it to them.

You look a little bit like my dad. You're rather normal looking, really. Of course, people tend to insult a person's physical appearance when they want to pick on them. It often has nothing to do with the way the person really looks.