Do you hate children get more help?

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Besides the whole AS diagnosis etc. I'm referring to what I've heard/seen can be done with children talking to the parents/teachers etc. talking to them nicely trying to listen and help them etc. When I mention to a therapist the idea of observation and then talking to me/teacher about the behavior he said no that'd break confidentiality. Also overall the only help I've gotten is oh you're depressed take a pill no one tends to care I upset EVERYONE in my environment and I feel I'm the only one looking to change while they're all just be yourself etc.

I feel this is because children can be helped and molded more unlike adults. Plus adults are expected to talk talk talk. Uh if a child doesn't speak much usually it's how do I get this child to open up if it's an adult oh you must not want help. IMO didn't are parents say don't talk to strangers? and what are you? (I DON'T CARE what degree you have!! !!) IMO you should help me open up to you just like you would a child but NO!! !! !!

I don't think the problem your therapist had with your idea was so much a confidentiality issue as that he wasn't comfortable with the idea or didn't know how to go about it. It's not like you can't waive your own confidentiality-- sometimes you can do it verbally, but usually they want you to do it in writing, and you can specify that a therapist can say certain things to certain people. Confidentiality is so that the patient can feel secure in talking to the therapist and know that the therapist isn't going to go blabbing all over the place about what you said to them. If the patient feels that it would be helpful for the therapist to speak to someone about something, or help them talk to someone, or whatever, and the therapist refuses, it's not because of confidentiality, it's because the therapist doesn't want to. There are plenty of perfectly legitimate reasons a therapist might not want to, including some related to confidentiality, or concerns about the scope of the permission, or how it might be re-interpreted.. Confidentiality is meant to ensure the patient's rights.. Adults can choose to waive their own rights if they see a benefit to it. Heck, one might even say that you have the right to waive your own rights.

Thanks for the reply. Good point about confidentiality. Overall though I think I got better advice from my Psychology teacher in 5min. than any pill or therapist I've dealt with LOL! (She actually cared and was sweet etc.)

I agree with Maggiedoll about the therapist.

But overall, I have to say that I see your point. Having also come late to the game of AS, it was impossible to be diagnosed as a child. While I envy the younger set, I'm glad that they will have the training and social education presented to them in a way that I never did. I hope it helps them to fit better and to beat the isolation that most of us don't particularly enjoy.

I look at this as "my cross to bear" in a way. The fact that we exist with this condition has paved the way so that these future generations will not have to suffer as much. In many ways, you are a pioneer. You can feel good about that.