"I love you"

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Saying this, or having it said to me, always carries a certain discomfort for me. Do you guys feel the same way?
I've just noticed, unless it's said while laughing, or in an otherwise non-serious manner, it makes me uncomfortable. Even saying it or having it said from my parents.
It's not like I don't love people. And I do try and tell them. But it's not very regularly, and I can't remember the last time I said it to a family member.
I worry for example, with my friends, I don't say it enough, because sometimes we'll say it to each other, say on the phone, and then another time, we won't. Do you think they're noticing this?

And then the terribleness of when someone you don't love casually says they love you...Then you have to lie and say you love them too....

Does this sentence make anyone else uncomfortable? Am I being weird? Is it normal for an NT, or an aspie thing?

The word love is one of those things I never say to someone seriously unless I actually mean it. NOn seriously would be them making me laugh then me saying "i love you" as in "you're good value".

I have only loved two men in my life, my family and my pets.

I used to never tell my family because it made me feel uncomfortable, yet I would say it over and over again to the cat and feel fine.

This especially. I've only said the L-word (*nudge* *nudge*) once to my parents and that was during a family emergency. In general i feel, well, not uncomfortable using that word, its just that i feel that it is a VERY special word that should not be thrown around or it looses its value.

However, i have no problem saying "I like you" to anyone who deserves it.

I like it. As long as people mean it. There are a couple of people I say it to all the time and I always mean it. I think they do too.

I have no problem, with the word, love. In fact, I wish that more people would use it, and stop trying to act so tough.

I can't really tell my feelings to other people especially since I need to analyze them before actually understand how they work and what they mean, thus I almost never say I love someone. When I do, it doesn't feel right, it's strange, perhaps that's because words can't really tell the complexity of feelings and emotions.
Most people lie about their feelings, I can never tell if their declarations are genuine or not, I think the bond one create with others are mostly made of lies and illusion thus I try to be sincere with them and either don't tell them anything about the lack of reciprocity (though I suspect most of them don't care about me the way they claim they do) or to be sincere.
When I love someone, be it a friend or a family member, I tend to tell it to someone else because it feels less wrong and I'm no longer afraid of the liar I might be facing.

Just like hale_bopp, I have no troubles saying it to my cat though. But people think that I act like someone who's been educated by cats so...


"I love you" is an important sentence. It has a strong emotional meaning and I don't like that many people lie when using it. It also fails at saying what is truly inside people's mind, they're just three little words that don't explain anything about the nature of the feelings and their origins. Language fails at describing emotions and covers many different feelings with the same word, which is also why it looses its value. It's just like the word "friend" which is being used by everyone to talk about someone they barely know (and it's a word I also only uses when I'm sure I feel that someone is truly my friend thought I don't know if they reciprocate the feelings because of the way people uses words).

I guess the false declaration may make people who truly mean what they say uncomfortable with some words. I don't really know why I feel that way or why other people feel that way, I've never been good at telling my feelings, but being betrayed by liars definitely makes it worse.

Yeah it makes me uncomfortable even when a family member or friend says it to me. I'll just either make a small joke or quickly say "loveyoutoo" in a quiet voice. When it comes to saying it in relationships, well, I'm better off not talking about that here.

All emotions are paltry in my eyes, anyway.

I don't think I've ever said "I love you" to anyone out loud, unless I was joking around - not that I don't love them, it's just a weird thing to say for some reason.

I HATE this - my friend always does this and it's so awkward.

My family and I always say 'I love you' to one another. And we always mean it - we don't say it as a lie. Once I was talking to my sister on my cell and some of my classmates in graduate school overheard me and when I walked back in they poked fun at me as though I'd been on the phone with a a boyfriend saying "oooooh i love you tooooo". Silly monkeys.

I always mean it and don't mind when others say it to me, even if I don't feel the same toward them. Love's one of those things we need more of in this world.

The only time I've heard those words and it actually meant something was from a former girlfriend - who was great in every sense but whom I didn't love back. It confirmed that if her words were indeed sincere, it was actually possible for someone to love me other than family who are obliged to do so. I've said those words myself - often in a jokingly manner, but it didn't carry any meaning as I've never loved someone.

I've only said "i love you" twice, and it was to the same person. Never to family or friends

I say it, but I rarely feel comfortable doing it, no one can notice, except maybe over the phone.

The only person I say that to is my daughter. Anyone else and they just use it as a license to own you and treat you like property.

If I ever said that to anyone in my family, they'd have me institutionalized.

Hey, Spazz.

I love you

*throws pie*