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lostinparadise
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25 Sep 2009, 2:13 pm

why life have to like this for me.there was a time i thought i can live without any people.but i cant .its just so plain and quiet,no excitement.no sound .no presence of life other than mine.
but seems like i have no choice for this.time has past quite a lot.and people have hard time take me as i am.i call them they are not there ,they don't receive or reply.i try communicating with my friends but seem like only time i see them around its because they had nothing else to do or had no choice.
i planned to give my social life a shot.but its tremendously hard.even when i am truly keen to learn.because its about the people.

okk.i just feel so hopeless.i know i cant have friends .but at least i can say i have feelings that is so bad when i know i am so pathetic that i am my only friend.
that's all .i am having a very lonely time.i just thought here i would at least find some human who are real and read this.



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25 Sep 2009, 2:17 pm

Your post really reached out to me, I feel terrible for you :cry:

I can relate to you, seeing as how I don't really trust people - if it makes you feel any better, I wouldn't mind chatting with you every now and then :wink:



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25 Sep 2009, 3:00 pm

Not exactly "Lost in paradise," are you?

Everyone feels lonely from time to time...that's probably why people always keep themselves busy. Find something that you
like to do, take up a hobby. Get out and do some VOLUNTEER work in your community...at a hospital, nursing home, a youth center, an animal shelter, a soup kitchen. By reaching out and helping others, you are helping yourself...and you won't feel so
alone anymore.

And no, you are not pathetic. But, to be a friend, you must first be a friend to yourself.



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27 Sep 2009, 5:46 am

For many years I certainly also believed that I could live without people but trying to live like that just made me much worse. The transition took many, taking maybe two years to make a proper friend and then maybe another three years until I made large numbers of friends. But it happened for me so might also happen for you.


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27 Sep 2009, 6:08 pm

I've been there. You're 21. Maybe you can get out there and find people with common interests with you.



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27 Sep 2009, 6:28 pm

I wish I could think of something good and encouraging to say... I wanna say something.. but I guess I'll just submit this reply saying that I wish I had something to say.. :oops:



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10 Oct 2009, 11:04 am

I always said and also saying this now - it is you who is not replying. as this is the case for me I think it is the same case for your other friends(whoever they are)...

okz...my condition is not very good either.so i was searching for some self-help books which may be useful for AS and guess what have found a whole lot of them.although majority of them are rubbish but 3 of those are really good for reading.they are
i) The Feeling’s Unmutual
ii) Aspergers in Love
iii) Asoerger Syndrome and Long Term Relationships

if u want to know where to download them then mail me...;-)



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10 Oct 2009, 11:35 am

Try to be your own best friend. Do things you like to do, do anything at all that pleases you. You're not alone, there are many of us similar to you spread across the globe who are here because they are your friends and because they do care.

Take care.



lostinparadise
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26 Oct 2009, 11:07 pm

shantonu wrote:
I always said and also saying this now - it is you who is not replying. as this is the case for me I think it is the same case for your other friends(whoever they are)...

okz...my condition is not very good either.so i was searching for some self-help books which may be useful for AS and guess what have found a whole lot of them.although majority of them are rubbish but 3 of those are really good for reading.they are
i) The Feeling’s Unmutual
ii) Aspergers in Love
iii) Asoerger Syndrome and Long Term Relationships

if u want to know where to download them then mail me...;-)




kothay pabo bolona???;)



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27 Oct 2009, 5:15 am

You're not alone,I feel like this a lot. But coming onto WP I have met a couple of friends whom I now I communicate with on instant messaging. Spend some time posting on WP and then PM those that you get along with or connect with. The great thing about IM is that there is no pressure and you can hide your presence if you do not feel like talking.


PM me if you do not know how to do this


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