Appeal for ideas for book about Social Etiquette!

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Hello, my name is Anna Quilliam. I was diagnosed with moderate autism when I was 2. Since then, I have managed to travel through the ASD spectrum up to the point where I now have mild Aspergers (yes, unusual, I know!). I am from Wellington, New Zealand, and am wanting to use my social experiences in order to write a social rules book. I came up with the idea at my Aspergers social meeting, wishing that I had had a guide to help me cope socially with what is and isn't socially appropriate (I'm not using this to make you change your personalities, but merely as a coping mechanism for those socially awkward experiences that I'm sure a lot of you have). I am aware that there is a topic about this on another post, but it instructed that there be no extra posts added to avoid confusion, hence why I have created another post.
As part of my research, I want to find out what sort of questions/topics people (those who are Aspies or just socially awkward in general) want covered in my book. It is going to have a New Zealand themed twist (or Kiwiana as we NZders like to call it!) for the colloquialisms section and current events part of conversation, however, you don't have to be a NZder to answer, of course.
If anyone is willing to answer my query (don't worry, this post will be referenced in my book, so your ideas aren't uncredited), I would be very grateful, thank you.

Sincerely,

Anna Quilliam

I think a section on appropriate responses for when someone is having a bad day would help me...more often than not what I think and what I say are two completely different things lol

Whoa how did you manage to travel up the spectrum? Did you go heavy metal detox treatments. Or say diet interventions, your on a gluten free/casein free diet. Im really curious. Im sure there was plenty of training involved I was wondering in terms of physical treatments.

Well getting to your question, Id like to know

1) General guidelines on if someones mad at you or you did something wrong. What are the best methods to approach the situations.
2) Topics of conversation that we should steer clear of
3) How to politely excuse yourself from a social situation.

umm theres probably more I can think of.

I think if you want a social rules book, look in the social rules thread. You should probably discuss and collaborate with some other aspies who have been thru a lot and have a wealth of knowledge.

Cheers for the feedback (very quick!), I will certainly consider them and see how to approach covering them in my book. I will certainly look at that social rules thread a bit more closely this time.

Ai Ling: Apparently travelling up the spectrum is highly unusual but not completely unheard of. As for how I did it, to be honest, I'm not sure what happened. I like to think that any autistic savant abilities I had were drained just surfing the spectrum. I'm not (and never was) on any special diets like casein/gluten (I like my food too much to cut anything out!), not sure what you mean by physical treatments - I'm on a high dosage of medication, but that only occurred when I was 15-16 (I had already travelled up quite a bit of the spectrum at this time). I never have had any special treatments like detox, radiology medication or the like. What I did have was an early diagnosis, followed by two loving parents who were determined to ignore and contradict the doctor's statement of "You will have a handicapped daughter for the rest of your lives", followed by working with a psychologist when I was 3-4 years. That's all I can think of that happened. Sometimes I feel I don't even fit in with my own diagnosis, people think I'm neurotypical when I tell them I have Aspergers.

I think how to tell when people are upset or aren't interested in what you are talking about it a useful consideration for this kind of thing.