Grrrrr my husband. Anyone hate getting new clothes?

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Sometimes he turns into a contrl freak. He wants to get me a new coat because it's "ruddy" I think that's the word he used. But my coat is still fine, sure it has a rip but it can be sewed easily. I don't want a new coat, I like my old coat. He says he has been trying to get me to get a new coat for two years but not he has to force it. He says he will get me a new coat anyway without me and toss my old one out and it be in a dumpster in another spot. I hope he was just kidding and he wouldn't really do this to me.


Anyone hate getting new clothes or new shoes or new coats? Anyone hate it when people like your family or spouse tries to get you a new coat or shoes or clothes? I even hate shopping for bras so I wear them until they break or start poking me, I wear my socks until they have too many holes in them. I wear my underwear until it's all worn such as too much holes in them and the seams are ripping. I even have some pairs from high school, seven pairs from when I was 14. I recenly got new ones because I had to toss some pairs out over the last two years. I got them as I was getting jeans for work. Ones I can wear out, not my own.
My husband notices how I never update my wardrobe or even get new clothes. He says most women get new clothes to stay pretty. I even have very few clothes from my pre teens and early teens and I still have clothes from when I was in high school.

I don't know why I don't like getting new clothes, maybe because I like things to be the same and I have always hated when I outgrow my clothes but when I get new ones, I would like them. But now that I am done growing, I have kept my clothes and never had to get rid of them. I let it keep growing and growing when I see clothes I like in thrift stores and buying them. But I have managed to get rid of some of my clothes and it wasn't easy. But I had decided two years ago I was done getting more so I don't bother looking at any or else I might end up buying. I have too much clothes. I have four tubs of them and the rest are in my closet and dresser. The only clothing I would only buy is the Benny & Joon shirt I still need to get. But I might wear that one out within a year. I'll just get another one.

I am fine getting new clothes as long as they are almost indentical to what I already have.
Same brand, same style, same comfort, same looseness.
I drive my mother mad with my clothes issues, though to a degree it also depends on my confidence in my body size at the time.
At the moment I will only wear knitted dresses with soft tights and sandals...yes, rain or shine, I am still wearing sandals with my tights cos they are comfy.

I would go mad though if anyone tried to force me or coax me to have something I wouldnt be comfy in.
The surest and quickest way to get me angry and agitated is to stick me in anything that digs in, clings to me or keeps shifting position.

The jeans I'm wearing at the moment have two holes in the crotch. I like buying and wearing new clothes, but there are usually other things I'd rather spend my money on. For instance, I just spent £49 on 200 5.25 floppy disks for my Commodore VIC 20, but £5 for a few pairs of socks or underwear? forget it! Most of the time, the only clothes I buy are Ghostbusters or Commodore T shirts. The purchase of a new pair of jeans is on my To Do list -- somewhere between Climb Mount Everest and End World Hunger.

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I am currently feeling devastated about my favorite dress because it is getting new rips every day because the fabric (denim) has gotten old and worn thin and the poor thing is literally shredding in front of my eyes. I have plenty of other clothes, but that's the COMFORTABLE dress. I don't even know where to get another one like it because I've had this one for about a decade and the place I bought it doesn't sell it any more. And I can't budget another new garment until January anyway.

On the bright side, however, I bought some books at the end of summer about drafting one's own clothing and have been slowly working my way through the information, waiting for a semester break when I'd have time for all the measuring and designing and cutting and sewing. The plan is to copy the comfortable dress and copy or modify other clothing that I'm extra fond of and devise patterns so I never have to worry about where to find comfortable clothes again because I've developed my own pattern library and can just go pick out some comfortable fabric and sew up a new copy any time. This way, also, I can do the same clothes in different colors and then I can wear the same thing every day without it looking so much to other people like I'm wearing the same thing every day. (Which can cause social problems, I've noticed. Many people seem to be bothered by someone who wears the same outfit all the time.)

Sparrow

I don't like new clothes except, as someone said, similar to what I had before and at least as comfortable. Once I find something I like, I buy several of them.

On the other hand, I made a decision a while back to not wear holey or torn clothes in public. Basic grooming standards. I wouldn't worry if someone else had a hole or was a punk or a goth or whatever, but that's not for me.

I always try to buy clothes that are exactly the same as the clothes I already have.

I have had the same style of pants for more than ten years, and the same style of shirts for almost as long.

I bought some new pants a few days ago that are the same style as my other pants, but they are a different color than my other ones. The color is close but not quite the same, and even though I know they will be comfortable I don't want to wear them. I am okay if my shirts are blue or black but I want my pants to all be the same color.

Seven years ago I bought a pair of shoes I liked, so I kept looking for that exact same style and color, and I found them, even six years after they stopped making that type.

This year was the first time in many years that I got a different style of shoes, so I bought extra pairs that were exactly the same as the new type.

I even have the same style of sunglasses. The last three pairs of sunglasses I have had have all been the same brand and style. I got the first pair near the end of 2003.

Yes, I hate getting new clothes. Unless they are exactly like the clothes I already have and like. Then I like getting new clothes.

Are you planning on opening an ancient computer museum??

I HATE the process of getting new clothes. The clothes themselves I actually love, provided I can find stuff that I like that feels comfortable. I normally don't, however, because the whole process leading up to finding the new clothes makes me SOOO miserable. I hate being out in crowded malls/stores, I hate interacting with store clerks, I hate picking clothes, I hate trying them on, and I hate the process of going through countless pieces of clothing that don't fit or look bad before I find something decent. If you add the cost of clothes these days, then it often doesn't seem worth it. Which reminds me, it's been a while, I probably need to think about getting some new clothes... :S

I HATE buying new clothes, almost as much as I hate buying shoes. Nothing fits. Nothing that I like comes in my size. I hate trying things on. It just SUCKS.

Both my kids resist buying new clothes, so we've found some classic styles and brands that we can just replenish as needed, without taking them shopping, and they like that. My husband has always done his wardrobe that way, but as a female it was a concept I was a bit unused to, having always worn "fashion" jeans until after my first baby was born and I couldn't find time to shop.

I suggest making a compromise with your husband. Unfortunately, there aren't too many coats that remain available year after year, but if you try REI or Eddie Bauer you might find some. Pick a long term classic style you like, and when your husband feels its too worn, he can buy the same style again. What you have to understand is that when you are part of a couple, what you wear reflects on him. Part of him may be worried that people think he's too cheap to allow his wife a decent coat. My husband doesn't want our kids wearing clothes with any stains; he was raised to believe that just "isn't done." So try to respect that your husband feels uncomfortable allowing you to wear things he has been taught belong in recycling, while finding a way to minimize the amount of new stuff you'll have to get used to. Does that make sense?

I hate it as well. I especially hate how people are around for some reason when I am looking at my clothes, also hate trying on stuff. My body has stopped growing up(and if I don't watch it, it'll grow horizontal) so I don't really have to try on stuff anymore. I just assume it'll fit so that the process of getting stuff is quicker. 33-34 jeans, adult large shirt, size 10.5 shoes. Yup very exciting.

I found last time I was at jc penny, they have solid color shirts for like $5 bucks a piece.

You can buy solid-color shirts directly from Hanes by going to onehanesplace.com or you can buy thicker shirts that are almost solid color except for a small 'C' from Champion(which is owned by Hanes) by going to championusa.com.

They are very inexpensive and you don't have to go to a store to get them.

And you don't have people around when you are looking for clothes. I hate this so much(especially when the workers follow me or ask me "Can I help you?". Yes, you can help me. By leaving me alone and going to somewhere where I can't see you and you can't see me).

That's one of the reasons I buy all my clothes online. I only go with companies that have a good return policy, in case they send me something that doesn't fit. And I won't buy from companies that don't have a clear, easy-to-understand size chart.

It's been a good decade, at least, since I bought clothing in a brick-and-mortar store. I even found a source for nice dress-up clothes that don't strangle me or make me want to gouge my eyes out with a grapefruit spoon and they will add custom tailoring for $5 extra (which is a Very Good Thing when one is a rather odd size/shape like I am.) And I buy my underwear from a little stay-at-home-mom cottage industry sort of shop online that is really good about working with me to give me exactly what I want (they sew it all from scratch.)

People talk about where they want to live based on available shops and entertainment, but all my clothes and entertainment come from online so I have totally different considerations about what sort of place I want to move to after graduation. Good internet access is, obviously, very high on that list of considerations.

Sparrow

No, I'm too clingy with my possessions for that!
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I'm feeling somewhat in the minority. I love fashion and shopping for clothes, although I have my own style and I couldn't care less about the kind of 'fashion' you find in magazines. Helps that my obsessive interest is costume though.

That said, I do choose my everyday clothes for comfort. I would like to offer my sincere thanks to the person who created yoga pants, which along with maxi dresses are becoming staples of my wardrobe.

I absolutely loathe shopping, especially shopping new clothes. Not until is completely wore down I never buy new ones. It seems such a terrible waste of money and time.

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