stupidly i came out....

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Among other things I'm a jobbing gardener age 51 and working for the last time after mrs M had passed away in April, i was high that afternoon so quite easily told the daughter in law who had travelled 200 miles to empty the house (lecturer - my age early 50's) that I was Aspi. She was great about it .... had a student aspi too, tho next few days wow did that send me in a downward spiral. I think it was loss of face. I certainly appeared bright to them, wide interests and very 'turned on' ... so why the f did I tell them?? I regret it deeply .. need gardening work from that area so lets hope she keeps stumm. Also told a customer of mine that I am a depressive .. next time she rang .. that flippin tone of voice told me all I needed to know. Let your motto be ... shut yer mouth. telling people has depressed me. Never do it .. most people haven't a clue.

I've never done it yet.. but thanks for the warning. >_<;
I resolved myself several years ago to keep my mouth shut about mostly everything.. not just ASD stuff. It's working well.

Sorry you had such a negative experience. There may be times in the future when for whatever reason you need to tell someone. It might be different. But it's always a personal choice when or if to tell.

You went to work.. high? .. well then.. that wasn't a good, or smart move.

I tell people. Some are cool with it, some aren't. I prefer people to know.

I told someone at work that I really clicked with. She was cool with it, but started talking to me like I was 5 years old and slow at that. I didn't say anything about it but just was me and after a couple of days, just forgot and treated me like normal.

the world really doesn't revolve around me, who would have thunk it?

but people are on a 'need to know basis' and 99.99% of them don't need to know.

well, I have told my co-workers and my bosses...however, I told them after I showed 'em I was the best at what I did.

It's usually best to develop a name for yourself, first.

Also, when I tell my co-workers, I often do it jokingly kind of.

A funny thing...I recently received an email via my business email account from some parents who wanted to sell the toys of their Autistic child.

Do you think I was crazy enough to say "I can totally sympathize as I too am Autistic?"

To quote Stone Cold Steve Austin "aw HELL no"

No....I will eventually tell the world about my Autism...but I want to develop a name/recognition for myself first.

I want to be able to announce it once I've built an amazing career and name for myself--much as Tim Burton and Dan Aykroyd did. At that point, it just highlights how great someone is despite what people think of as a "crippling handicap".

If ya tell 'em before then, they just feel sorry for you and will never take you seriously.

Heh, take even Ellen Degeneres; do you honestly think that she would be successful today if the first words that came out of her mouth upon getting on stage were "I'm a lesbian"?

Some people guess... you can always tell when someone's guessed it when they start talking to you like a 5-year-old, and every time they tell a joke, they add "Oh, that was sarcasm/a pun/joking/whatever, by the way, Aietra".

I've often thought coming out about AS for me must feel a lot like coming out about sexuality for LGBT people...

Someone in my hostel reckons I should be more open about it, though - she reckons it helps people understand me better...

...I reckon it helps people put up with me better!

sometimes i wonder if people know something about me (recognize something) but decide not to tell me because it's to their advantage that i don't know that they know what i don't know