Which AS trait would you choose NOT to have?

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Sure the social aspect will probably get 90+% voted but for me it'd be different emotional response. There's the issue of laughing incorrectly to not showing emotion when my sister fell or the other day when someone was freaking out over the phone the conversation was something like OMG that happen (I was in a waiting room and the receptionist was on the phone) I didn't flinch. IMO the reason I didn't mention the social aspect is YES I'd want friends but while I'm not sure if it's an Aspie thing I have to admit I'm a follower you could attack me or I could become an alcoholic etc. without even knowing it. I don't want to be caught up with the wrong crowd basically and I KNOW I would be.

The sociopath trait

I am tired of not feeling anything or feeling nothing for my husband and not being connected to my emotions or feelings well.

Or getting rid of my social awkwardness of not saying the wrong things. I wouldn't have to be shy then or have to worry about scaring people off or getting too clingy or saying the wrong things. At least I don't have to worry about that with my husband.

The sensory integration dysfunction, for sure. Very distracting and debilitating, more than anything else, for me. (To be more precise, bright sights inducing nausea and diminutive sounds bringing headaches on: I would gladly do without these.)

Having trouble organizing my life.

My scatterbrained nature has been an annoyance throughout my whole life. If I forget something, I often break out crying or even have a meltdown. The toll of it is unbearable because I am a perfectionist and I need predictability. Forgetting things is unpredictable and contributes to already large amounts of daily stress.

Clumsiness is a close second. I always drop or spill things.

Definitely not being able to read body language; that's the only thing that's given me trouble.

lack of motivation

not being able to tell when people are lying.

The tendency to make faux pas.

I seem to be affected by it more than most Aspies, and that depresses me.

Procrastination - the seeming inability to focus on a task and get it done - even the ones I really WANT to complete sometimes take forever because I can't bring my mind to bear on it and keep hold of it.

Attention runs through my fingers like water and suddenly I realize I'm doing something completely unrelated and far less constructive and several hours, or most of the day have gone by...and I've accomplished nothing. Its as if there's some ghost in my psyche that WANTS to be a failure...

The auditory processing glitch. The following scenarios are so horribly awkward, and they happen dozens of times a day:

1) I have to ask people to repeat themselves multiple times even though my hearing tests out just fine. Sometimes I give up and just nod my head and pretend I understood.

2) What they say and what I hear are two different things, and I answer inappropriately.

3) The first two items are sometimes exacerbated by figure-ground issues in busy places.

4) Worst of all, there are agonizingly long pauses between the time words hit my ears and the time my brain decodes them, and again between the time my brain decodes them and the time it sends a reply back for my mouth to say. It makes even the most trivial of conversations positively painful, and causes the other person to immediately realize that something about me is "not right."

(as always i'm refering to my HFA not AS).

i would very much like to be able to be more verbal as it is the main cause of any meltdowns i have these days.

Eye contact, procrastination/daydreaming and misreading body language

Executive dysfunction.

I could really do without the visual sensory issues (when I'm driving at night those god damn blinking lights on top of the radio towers or whatever make me feel like I'm going to pass out and careen into a ditch) but I'd gladly take that if I could keep all my affairs in order.

For me, it would be NOT taking everything literally AND answering rhetorical questions.

I am now making a conscious effort to NOT answer any question that appears remotely rhetorical, or at least to count to ten before answering.

I am having some success with this, which is what the world sees.

What they don't hear is my inner voice wondering 'is that a real question and if it is, do I NEED to answer it?'

I have come to the conclusion that, in the word of Robert Deniro's character in 'Ronin', 'if there is any doubt, there is no doubt' (and it is therefore rhetorical)

If I am wrong (and the question is important enough) I guess the person can repeat the question.

I think I am right in stating that people don't repeat rhetorical questions?

I would want to be more motivated, less socially inept, less annoying, and less annoyed at everything. Getting rid of headaches would be good too, I didn't know it was an aspie thing.