A little story.

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Would you believe that the victim of bullying got blamed for it? The other kids picked on him because he was different, his parents explained. That scares the other kids, apparently, so he asked how he was different & what he was supposed to do about it. Of course, he just had to accept himself as he was & the other kids would too. He didn't understand this & never did get on with most of those kids at school but it was always his fault he couldn't fit in, wasn't it? So, his parents sent him to a counselor, who told him he just had to have confidence. He didn't understand that & she explained he had to believe in himself. Eventually, he managed to get a better explanation of this as believing in his skills/ abilities/ etc, for his life, as he was responsible for it.
Strangely, this didn't make any difference at school but, since it was 'only' verbal, it's how you develop good character, isn't it? So, on & on, around & around. Things improved, slightly, at college & university, before he dropped out, simply unable to cope with things. He manged years of casual factory & warehouse work, never making friends but, mostly, getting on OK with his workmates, as the jobs were only a few weeks at a time.
When he did think he was making friends, although they kept insisting on faith/ confidence, they usually called it arrogance, in practice. This was claimed to be 'the way he said it'. Sometimes, it would be explained that it was his 'attitude'. That was only said to be 'the way he said it'. Strangely, they alternately insisted he conform & accept himself as he was & so on, around & around.
He eventually got diagnosed with hypomania & was sectioned for 3 months, although he wasn't suicidal or a threat to anybody else. When he came out, he got a CPN, who claimed most of his concerns were just insecurities & reinforced the message about believing in himself. When his CPN retired, the next, who'd dealt with some people with Asperger's thought that might explain many of the problems. So, he was sent for & duly got a diagnosis, & was told about the local support group, which he went to.
Perhaps inevitably, the woman in charge also insisted on being positive but she insisted that was almost all about attitude. She told him that he'd misunderstood the basic basis of the whole 'be positive/ positive thinking', despite agreeing that everything is a matter of trust/ faith/ belief. He wasn't able to get on with that approach, probably being too logical & analytical & so left, since he needed help & support, not undermining.
Other care/ support workers didn't understand his problems & even asked why he cared.... (Maybe this story will continue?)

You dropped out of College

Yep.

A story that I'm sure so many of us ccan relate to...

I thought so, strangely!

I had to accept the way I was when I was younger but I always tried to pretend to be a regular NT to get myself out of trouble, apparently it kinda works for me, but its gotten me nearly killed when i looked at some guy and he started chasing me wanting to kill me and people thought I was some freak... I'd always wondered why I was so different? For many years I was searching for who im really are.

So hold on BruceCM, so basically is that story based on what had happened in your life?

Yes, I nearly cried reading this because it strangely relates to the problems i've had in the past. My girlfriend nearly got sectioned when she was sent to a counselor and she was suicidal.... she was diagnosed with the samething I got which is autism, but im unsure with what i've got because i have a behaviour of an AS. It was such a hard part for me and she was having troubles making friends like what happened in your story.

It's some of my life, yeah! I wasn't suicidal, although I have been on the verge; they thought I was or might be some sort of threat to myself &/or others. I was still fortunate; I got my own room & got on OK with the other patients, etc; it could have been a lot worse! Hope it helps, a bit?