Starting over.....

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No, this isn't something I have to do, but I did a while back.

And if there's one thing I learned from it, it's that you can't "start over" in the same environment you began in; ya gotta go elsewhere.

I believe it was my Dad who said I could, but he was wrong.

Once you "affect" people in a certain area, the damage is done there, and the best you can really do from that point is go elsewhere, and start with a clean slate.


When it comes to folks such as ourselves--Autistics--we gotta go far out of our way because our reputation will really get out there.

Why am I bringing all this up? I just thought of it for some reason at work today...

hi TheDoctor82,

i agree with you and have thought about this a lot... it should be said that sooner or later we run out of places to run :-/

the world can be small in an unpleasant way at times.

I agree that you can end up being so unpopular in one group that it'd be less of a struggle starting again where nobody knows you - once people label somebody as "not quite right" then they're usually pretty loathe to take a fresh look, whatever the evidence says. It's as if they need to designate a few inferiors and to keep them thus designated, to provide a reference point that validates their own inflated self-esteem.

But I also think that social problems have a habit of following a guy about, so any advantage might soon erode into the same mess that was happening before. I've tried to "burn my cards" a number of times, but it did no long term good, and quite a bit of harm.

Maybe the whole idea of having a reputation within a group that's consistent throughout that group is something of a red herring - each individual in the group has their own opinion, a slightly different take on what they think of you. So statements such as "everybody hates me here" probably aren't really true. Some will have thrown the switch on you, others won't have.

I don't know what "starting over" really means (though I've often wanted to do just that) - I think we are what we are, and trying to turn over a clean sheet doesn't really get to grips with why we blow it and why we don't. I prefer making small changes to specific things, one at a time.

I have also learned this and certainly this particular week. I wrote more about it in this thread, which I will reply now.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/modules.php? ... &p=2484644

Somehow your post here apply as answer to that, thank you



I can certainly relate to that