Do you intrerpret things wrong?

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The other day before going to the movies I asked my sister what kind of popcorn we were going to get. She IMO barked I don't know! Then when we got to the car I started crying. She then said if you are going to cry stay home so I missed the movie. (I interpreted her popcorn response as rude and I HATE loud or rude I start crying) Also the other day I had my Ipod on and started talking about Twilight then dad yelled I DON'T CARE! I then went to sit along a wall and started crying. (Of course I tend to be loud when I have my Ipod on but I don't notice.) So after both experiences dad upsetting me and me upsetting sister I said THE HELL WITH THEM I'll go SEE NEW MOON BY MYSELF!! !! !! ! Which I plan on doing today. I tend to take things wrong and interpret them as yelling/rude etc. Does anyone get where I'm coming from and any ways to fix this issue? Thanks WP.

i dont think your getting them wrong. i think you are not picking up why they are rude. you might have missed things that they are going through . stress . worry. headache. now i have to talk things through and i would ask what kind of popcorn because thats all part of the having to know the details for me when i go out.
your crying because someone has been angry is normal and although unfair so is being tetchy to someone else when your in a bad mood . you just have to learn to ask. "am i talking too much" and give them the opportunity to try and explain if they feel in a bad mood generally or what they are annoyed about with you . or you can do what i normally do and thats sulk. but it doesnt help.

Maybe you aren't misinterpreting. I could be totally wrong, but it sounds like your sister got frustrated, just because you wanted to plan out things about the cinema trip in an aspie way. And similarly, your dad got frustrated, just because you wanted to talk about something that mattered to you, but not to him. I don't think it's about you misunderstanding, maybe they really are being rude!

But then that's also kind of hard to deal with. If your family find it hard to cope with your aspie ways, you're going to find it hard to cope with them, and you're going to get upset by the way they respond to you. It sounds like a tough situation. There's no easy answer, but maybe something can be done about it over time. Definitely don't blame yourself though, and if you can find it in your heart, try not to get angry or upset at them, or sad about what's happening (far easier said than done, I know)

I had a different set of problems with my mum, but I found that by explaining to her about the things I found difficult in my relationship with her, she started to change a little bit. I don't know your dad or your sister, so I don't know if that's possible for you. But I know for me, sometimes I talk to my mum, or even email her or write her a note, and try and tell her that something is bothering me, without being angry at her, and trying to show her that I'm trying to make "peace" It's like trying to negotiate, so that she understands better.

Anyway, don't know if that would help in your situation, but just an idea.

Sounds good that you are planning a trip on your own - good for you.

Oh God, yeah, my aspie friend's mom was telling me how when he was younger, Saturday would come and he'd be like "so where are we going?", "how long are we gonna be there?", "what are we going to eat?", "where will we be going after that?" His mom used to freak out and say "for Christ's sake, just chill out!!"

Yeh, I guess we don't realise that our planning tendency winds other people up, but if we communicate about that to other people, and explain why we need to do it (because we can't handle unpredictability), then people can grow to become more ok with it.

Sometimes... it can make driving difficult. Don't let that put any of you off driving though - I'm just learning, and it's not too bad... it can just get a little tough when I can't entirely understand the instructions.

I definitely annoy people with planning and I always ask every weekend "what are we doing?" that seems like a everyday routine for me
Yes I do intrerpret things wrong alot of the times.... like when im in an argument, they are trying to help me understand but i normally see it going the wrong way because its normally negative things. Like when people say as a joke, I don't like you, I see it as they don't like me and it upsets me inside but they were joking, I always had to double think now before i start having a reaction?

The other day before going to the movies I asked my sister what kind of popcorn we were going to get. She IMO barked I don't know! Then when we got to the car I started crying. She then said if you are going to cry stay home so I missed the movie. (I interpreted her popcorn response as rude and I HATE loud or rude I start crying) Also the other day I had my Ipod on and started talking about Twilight then dad yelled I DON'T CARE! I then went to sit along a wall and started crying. (Of course I tend to be loud when I have my Ipod on but I don't notice.) So after both experiences dad upsetting me and me upsetting sister I said THE HELL WITH THEM I'll go SEE NEW MOON BY MYSELF!! !! !! ! Which I plan on doing today. I tend to take things wrong and interpret them as yelling/rude etc. Does anyone get where I'm coming from and any ways to fix this issue? Thanks WP.

I don't think you misinterpreted them. They were being short with you because you were annoying them.