Do you think behavior is complicated to change?

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Me being loud when I get excited about something I'm interested in upsets my family as does other traits but sadly my mom compares me changing behavior to her quitting smoking. IMO quitting a behavior such as loudness (AS trait) Meltdowns (AS trait) is different than an item such as smoking. Sure both are "behaviors" but Smoking involves an item a cigarette behavior is just that behavior it's a part of what makes you YOU! IMO if you tried to change you would be forcing yourself to be someone your not therefore life would suffer (you'd be depressed,work/school would suffer etc.) all because you're trying to change X behavior. Sure over years I might look back and say why I behaved like that but I'm not at that age yet I'm only 23 LOL!

I think it's hard for everyone to change. My mom says it takes willpower to do it. She had to work on not hitting us when she gets mad. The reason why she was that way was because she was hit too by her dad growing up so she developed that bad habit.


But I think changing something that is caused by a condition is even harder. Sometimes you can't change it unless you have therapy to change that about yourself. Can a Bipolar person stop being a b***h and getting upset over little things? Can they even work at not doing it? They need medication to reduce it.
Can an autistic stop being sensitive to touch? That can be worked on through therapy.
Can an ADHD person stop losing things and being forgetful? I know medication helps them with that.


But yeah people with conditions have over came their symptoms and stuff like I over came being inflexible and I used to be distracted by sounds in the classroom and I was unable to focus on my school work. I would get easily distracted. Now I don't have that problem anymore. Therapy might have done it or I just worked at it or it could have been both. Having therapy, you are also doing the work to change, not just the therapist. Only they are there to help you change because they can't change you, they help you.
I have also learned to not have anxiety in certain situations. I worked at it.

We are essentially the programming of our DNA. As such, our behaviours are the compilation of our genes. We are little more than organic machines.

For me it is hard to me to change, the immaturity as people describe it, I find that difficult because i wanted to a little bit of fun and entertainment but i find it harder to find the alternative way of doing it.

My meltdown is also hard to change as i can be really sensitive to certain things. Being told to grow up wouldn't help me as it would make me feeling hurt inside and i just cry in my head.

Being loud i can definitely change but it only occurs when im feeling really comfortable with the people who I know and I can definitely trust.

huh?