Can you develop a trigger later in life?

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Sorry, I'm not sure what the official term for it is. Like in Mozart and the Whale, where Isabelle cannot stand the sound of clinking metal. What's that called?
Anyways, can ASD people develop different ones as they get older? For example, I wasn't ever really bugged by loud eating, until I started getting around 12 or 13. Now if it's particularly smacky sounding, it can send me to angry tears, where I just need to cut myself, or something. IT affects me SO bad. Esp. when my dad does it, because he's so nasty and loud about it. I don;t tell anyone in real life about this.....But is that like, a "trigger"? It doesn't physically hurt me, it's just emotional torture. It makes me feverish, sweaty, angry, disgusted, hateful, and I even get so mad I can like, feel it in my ovaries...I don't know if that makes sense....XD. If i get mad enough I feel it there.

I don't know what to say about the trigger you're referring to, except that I had an uncle who would lose it if you were smacking your food. My mom would warn us before we went to visit him to chew very quietly.

When I watch physical violence in a movie, I feel a tingling sensation in my knees. I also get this same kind of ache when I'm menstruating, so maybe it's a girl thing.....

<<Sorry, I'm not sure what the official term for it is.>>
. Trigger is a good term for it. And yes, we can develop new ones. They can happen not just as we age, but suddenly and sometimes temporarily too; like, during times of high stress or depression. They can come and go -- ie; not only can new ones appear, but sometimes old ones fade out, or begin to seem less important. I say this based on my own experience; over the years I've been more or less sensitive to different things at different times.

<< [...snip...] Now if it's particularly smacky sounding, it can send me to angry tears, where I just need to cut myself, or something. IT affects me SO bad. Esp. when my dad does it, because he's so nasty and loud about it. I don;t tell anyone in real life about this.....>>
Have you tried telling your Dad how much it bothers you? Oh, like, just politely asking him to, uh, please "STFU"? . ...er, ok, no; it's your dad, so you should probably be more polite than that.

<<But is that like, a "trigger"? It doesn't physically hurt me, it's just emotional torture. It makes me feverish, sweaty, angry, disgusted, hateful, and I even get so mad I can like, feel it in my ovaries...I don't know if that makes sense....>>
Well, it sounds like what you're calling a 'trigger'; a reaction, a sensitivity to something, someone, an event, a behavior, etc.
. And, yeah, it does make sense. 'emotional torture' can hurt too, and like you describe -- feverish, sweaty... -- it can express itself physically.

Hang on, kid. It sounds like you're figuring things out. And things do get easier in some ways as you get older.

ive told him numerous times......he either does it more, or ignores me.
so that is like, an AS symptom? that sort of being bugged by stuff to an extreme?

<<ive told him numerous times......he either does it more, or ignores me.>>
. Oh, that's too bad (my mother used to do that sometimes too; doing more of what i'd tell her bothered me). Hard to know how to handle that. Well, maybe he'll grow up some day.

<<so that is like, an AS symptom? that sort of being bugged by stuff to an extreme?>>
. Yes it could be. Tho it could also be a sign of other things, like:
. You're just having a bad day. [irritation of short duration. take an aspirin.]
. Adolescence. [irritation that's prolly gonna last a while. aspirin ain't gonna do the trick for this one, so you'll have to try to find some calming way to cope.]

But, don't pin yourself into a corner if you don't have to. NTs can also get very upset when someone around them acts like an ass. anyone would!

I used to get absolutely grossed out by my ex's eating, but it wasn't a trigger. it was just disgusting and it made me hate him that he couldn't be considerate and not chomp his french fries on the way into his fat mouth. he was just gross.

I do have many triggers, and tortilla chips are one of them. they sound different than other food. there's something about the sound of someone eating tortilla chips that will quickly send me into a meltdown if I don't leave the room. my husband is really sweet and eats them at least 20 feet away from me unless I'm eating them, too, because I can do a noise cancel if I eat one at the same time he does.

open-mouth chewing or talking while chewing is a trigger for my husband, though, so I try really hard not to do it but I have such a problem not talking while I'm eating