Did I miss something?

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I mentioned on another thread that I feel mentally older than most people my age--as mentioned on Facebook--that I don't want the things anymore that people my age do; I want bigger, better things, and am striving for them.

My room-mate's girlfriend responded to it with this statement:

"I hope you don't look back in 20 years and wish you had enjoyed your 20s more"

To which I told her "I did the big thing of my 20s that people do: socialized. I did it for a bit, had fun, but then moved on to other, bigger things"

and I keep wondering...is she suggesting there's something else I honestly think I'm missing out on? Cause I don't.

The only reason I keep wondering is because I have no issues with self-reflection; but in fairness, I really can't think of anything I honestly believe I missed out on.

the only thing I think I WOULD'VE missed out on, had I not done it, is starting my business as early in my life as I did. I would've considered it "catching up" later on, as I wouldn't be anywhere near as experienced as I'll likely be in time.

Tell her "I hope you don't look back in 20 years and wish you hadn't wasted your 20s more"

Who's to say what is the best way for another person to spend their life?

I would have thought the only thing anybody can do to work it out is to try to determine what behaviour will yield them the maximum pleasure and minimum pain in the present and the future. NTs are in no position to predict what will float an Aspie's boat. Some of the people at my first workplace thought I was throwing away my life because I didn't want to play the careerist game....one of them couldn't understand why I hadn't got my life all planned out by the time I was 25. Yet here I am, no less content than the next man (as far as I can tell), and with no regrets apart from the occasional bad decision about specifics.

Past the outside age of 7 I
have never "acted my age".

I'm stuck at 7.

Extensive travel is easiest in your 20's before you get enmeshed in a career and can't take much time off. That's when people backpack across Europe for 2 months or do a cross-country roadtrip. Once your career gets going, it's 2 weeks per year max, if that. Most people don't get another chance for extensive travel until they have retired.

Of course if you don't want to travel for 2 months, then it doesn't much matter. But if you do- now is the time.

I think that no matter what someone does, there's always something they'll have missed doing and something they can regret not having done.. but it sounds as though you're pretty happy with what you have done, so it's a moot point. There are an infinite number of things that you (and everybody else,) haven't done. If you've been busy doing what you wanted to do, who cares what you haven't done, in order to have time to do what you actually wanted to do? Like you said, you've started a business, gotten your life started... maybe whoever said that you were going to look back and wish that you had done other things was just jealous that you've moved on to bigger things and they haven't yet.