Does people influence you?

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Hi all,

I read about people with asperger's can feel other people's emotion, often too overwhelming and too much. I have the same experience. Certain people's mere presence seem to change my personality and mind dramatically.

Why is that? Does this indicate that there are types of environment I cannot possibly live? If I find the emotions from that environment too overwhelming and too much? Are you able to successfully shut off these emotions?

Also, does this indicate that I must find certain types of environment which I am comfortable in? Should I change my career, place to live because of it?

I think it means be where you are comfortable, and when you are somewhere you are not comfortable, find ways to deal with it. There will always be overwhelming things. It's a matter of seeing what is worth the pain.

I think with different people, there are a different sets of social norms with those specific people. I hope that makes sense.

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I think so too. I am very bad at getting social norms.

People come from different background and experiences right? The way they interact differ.

The sad thing is that I tend to use one standard (my own point of view) to understand other people's perspective of myself. It served me very wrong.

How do you deal with other people, or do you not care?

It seems to be people with AS either feel too much emotions from people or they feel too little. It's all black and white, nowhere in between.


I for one feel too little. Sometimes I will feel them and it gets too much it stresses me out. If other people get scared or upset, I get it too. My mom once told me how I'd act different when I was a little girl and then she realize I was getting them from her because she had been overwhelmed lately. She said it was a gift and not many people have it. She also said I used to snuggle up to her when I see her sad.

I remember one time during 9/11 kids were saying how it was WWIII and acting all excited about it. I got scared and started to freak out, my aid had to pull me out of choir and bring me back to the resource room to get me away from it. She assured me WWIII had not started and there will not be one.

I find that I generally adapt to whatever the people I'm currently with are like. I'm not trying to fake people out or climb the social ladder, I just do it to blend in better. Just keep a low profile and don't bother anyone when I don't need to. I do everything I can to socialize reasonably well during the day, and then I go home and let my mind turn inwards again.

I'm one of the ones who feel too much emotion.

Sometimes I feel like I'm a mind reader, other times I feel like a sponge, and then other times I feel like a tornado. Realizing that I am not "imagining" these feelings and thoughts has helped me to stand up for myself with regard to whether or not I should force myself to socialize with people who make me uncomfortable. This has been a constant battle with my current boyfriend because he goes to family parties on a weekly basis. I avoided them for a long time but his family judged me believing I thought that I was too good or something, so for about a year I forced myself to go. Only recently have I decided that I am not going to try to change who I am, because there is nothing (inherently) wrong with me. Due to conditioning, I almost feel crazy saying all of this, but hopefully it is understood.