Unhealthy attachments

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Hi everyone,

I have been having an unhealthy attachment to someone whom I had worked with. He broke off with me half a year ago. I hoped things will get normal again. I am so afraid that he is looking to have another person to be happy, and once I find out that he is, I am afraid I will really kill myself.

What should I do?

Well, that's the truth isn't it? Everybody is always looking for somebody else to make them happy. You know it's an unhealthy attachment so you should know that your reaction to the truth of what he is going to do next is unhealthy right? Don't entertain those thoughts. It's time to start over; that chapter of your life has ended. What's next for you? Focus on that. I'm sorry if I'm oversimplifying the situation, but sometimes we just have to accept the truth. Try to see him in a realistic way. You can live without him.... He's not so great. I'm sure of it.

Find some distraction in something else, maybe a past or current obsession, that wasn't a person.

I was in the same situation, three years ago, and it happened here. I thought a part of me died, when he dropped me as a friend. The good part that likes the 60s. That wan't the case, though. I just didn't want to look or appear vulnerable, so I shut that off. The worse part is that it was somebody from here, who did it, and told me how to run my life, afterwards. That's what that whole punker, Sid thing was about. I didn't want to admit that I had feelings.

I don't remember ever been so obsessed or bothered. Even when good friend sometimes hurt my feelings, I could overlook and focus on something else. If betrayed, I would get hurt for a long time, but I can always recover.

I don't know to handle my emotions if he betrays me. I feel like one of those idiots who wants to kill herself and her spouse.