Can You tell that somebody may have aspergers?

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Brandon-J
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16 Dec 2009, 4:00 pm

By the way that the talk and move around maybe? The way they may use the same words in alot of their speaking. I think im starting too finally take notice of it.



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16 Dec 2009, 4:22 pm

I do the same thing. I call it my "spectrum detector." I was diagnosed after I graduated high school. Then I started wondering if a friend of mine in high school had it. I will never see him again, so I'll have to ask him in Heaven.



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16 Dec 2009, 4:53 pm

I cannot. I don't have a spectrum detector or 'aspiedar' as I've seen another poster call it in an earlier thread.

As I don't usually pay attention to others, I won't notice if there are any autistic traits in their behaviour. When other children in school would occasionally reveal to me that they were autistic too, I was surprised. One other autistic girl strangely didn't seem to recognise it in me, either.

However, on-line I have sometimes 'suspected' posters on another forum to be autistic. There's one who has a great reservoir of knowledge on Marvel Comics, especially on X-Men; he prefers not to socialise with the other posters in off-topic threads, and others sometimes poke fun at him for coming across as 'robotic'. Then there was another poster who obsessed about the same topic over and over again (the topic being unconscious or perceived racism in comics), was very self-centered and arrogant, could at the same time be charming and obnoxious, but the repetitiveness of his posting and the time he spent on the comics and the forum seemed to indicate an ASD to me.


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16 Dec 2009, 4:54 pm

I think this boy in my elementary school had it. It was how he acted, not by how he spoke. He was a lot worse than me.

Then when I was in my last week of training, there was this man who was new and he was shaking his feet and legs and he said he was nervous. I wondered if he was on the spectrum but I dared to not ask. I didn't want to embarrass myself or offend him because what if he didn't? Overall he was normal and he fidgeted less when he got comfortable.

I suspected that someone online had it just by what he was saying about himself, his obsessions he has, his difficulties so I thought "Asperger's" and it turned out I was right. After he started talking to me, I told him about it and he had already knew because it was suspected by his aunt he may have it so he went in to see if he does or not and his doctor said he did. Few months later, he was officially diagnosed. Now he is doing much better, has more friends and socializes. Everyone accepts him.

When I met my ex online, I suspected he might have it because of his obsessions and few other things he said about himself. Then I told him he could have it and when he came and visit me, I had him do the aspie tests and he scored aspie.

I wondered if my pesky neighbor had it. The poor hygiene for one or that could have been due to child neglect, same reason for why he would be an outcast. He had ADHD.

I thought my first ex could have it but I got told he was just an as*hole so I threw out the AS label. He just had traits of it then.

I thought of my husband as having it but I couldn't tell because he has brain damage and I wasn't sure if it just caused him to have the symptoms. He also scored aspie on the test and 27 on the AQ. He says he doesn't have it and he won't even bother going to see if he does or not (too scared of having it lol). So I say he doesn't have it. I call him "aspie like" instead.



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16 Dec 2009, 5:40 pm

The only person I knew that was for sure dxed on the spectrum was probably mid-functioning, I could easily pick out someone else like him.
Very monotone voice
Reduced expression (though he had some)
Didn't look you in the eye
made lots of social faux-pas

But looking at videos of more typical Aspies, I can't tell.


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16 Dec 2009, 5:49 pm

I have that I think, I tend to detect the behaviours in others at least, though I'm never really sure if they actually have AS or not.



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16 Dec 2009, 6:31 pm

There's a house mate I had 30 years ago that I now recognize as an almost comically text book example. He even talked like Marvin the Martian.


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16 Dec 2009, 6:37 pm

I don't think I can.


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16 Dec 2009, 7:02 pm

I can't, though I do tend to always end up being friends with people, then finding out that they're Aspie years later. It's a constant trend throughout my school/college/uni life. :S



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16 Dec 2009, 7:05 pm

Aimless wrote:
There's a house mate I had 30 years ago that I now recognize as an almost comically text book example. He even talked like Marvin the Martian.


You make me angry, verrry angry! :D


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16 Dec 2009, 7:17 pm

Audiophile wrote:
Aimless wrote:
There's a house mate I had 30 years ago that I now recognize as an almost comically text book example. He even talked like Marvin the Martian.


You make me angry, verrry angry! :D



Imagine this: He had a girlfriend who chose to retain her virginity, but they would still horse around. We'd be sitting in the living room and we'd hear this "thump thump thump" from upstairs and Tom in his Marvin the Martian voice yelling-"I'm going to spank. your. bottom". He was actually kind of a jerk-once tried to get the paper lady fired because she was late with the morning paper. It was snowing. :roll:


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16 Dec 2009, 7:33 pm

I can. From a mile away. I think years and years of raising my daughter alone, with no outside help have turned me into the Sherlock Holmes of Asperger's detection. Although I only found out the official name of my specialist subject a year ago.



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16 Dec 2009, 9:57 pm

I can tell if it seems glaringly obvioius...but in most cases, I would never know for sure...

My aspiedar went off for this one woman who started hanging out here...There was something very intense and different about her and she is/was always bringing us stuff..something I can relate to, as I am a chronic gifter...She is a major techie and really into these elaborate AV projects and whatnot...When I finally talked to her about it, i found out that she was diagnosed with ADD among other things...and had sctually been to the Amen clinic and everything...I still think she is an aspie..her ADD diagnosis came before Asperger's was really on the map, and I bet that if she were diagnosed today, maybe it would be with AS...Hopefully she was not annoyed with me for talking about it with her...I was in an unfilteres and gregarious mode at the time ...



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16 Dec 2009, 11:18 pm

Yes.

I'm as good as any professional I've seen (not blowing my own horn or anything, it's just that I've read a lot and retained all of the information).



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16 Dec 2009, 11:30 pm

I've spotted a few people who certainly could be, even just in brief meetings or chances to observe them. There's also a couple of people I used to socialise or work with, and knew pretty well, who I would say are almost definately on the Spectrum.



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17 Dec 2009, 2:26 am

Yeah, I can definitely tell if someone may be on the spectrum. Sometimes it's physical cues, sometimes it's the way they speak or the manner in which they respond to interaction or answer questions. For example, I was watching a horror movie last night with a friend of a friend who I hadn't met before, and two other NTs.. this guy was a movie buff, I guess it was his special interest, and any time anyone would say anything about the main character, crack a joke, or make a double entendre (yeah, old horror movies tend to lend themselves to double entendres) he'd respond in the most literal way possible. Another time, I met a very quiet guy at college who was a computer genius.. everyone thought he was shy/weird and 17.. I thought he might have AS so I chatted with him, turns out he was had an "anxiety disorder," in his words, and was 22. Another girl I tried to get with was so awkward in bed I eventually gave up... she had all the cues, especially oversensitivity to stimuli. My roommate in sophomore year of college was a sure bet. Pokemon was his special interest and he spent whatever time he wasn't eating or in class playing video games. He was difficult to socialize with, often speaking at length about what interested him. Oh, and he rocked all the time.

Never did I talk with any of them about AS. Don't want to give myself away.