Improvement in eye-contact

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How many aspies here have had a significant improvement in eye contact. What was the cause of it?

real eye contact, or the illusions of eye contact? I can make people think i'm making eyecontact and have never actually done it


Jeff

Mine has drastically improved. Still hate to make eye on contact though.

well, i make eye contact on my own terms, and there are times when its pleasant to stare into the eyes of a lover.

but i don't let NT culture push me into making eye contact i don't want either.

I give out eye contact sparingly and people have to earn my trust and my force of attention; and not look ugly on the inside.

with the right circumstances and some good quiet i can look somebody very well in the eyes.

I just have special eyeball needs.

I only do eye contact when I am curious as to where that person is looking ...

that is all

yes, that's my case, too. it actually never improved, but i also never felt the need to try.

I had no eye-contact and now have a lot of eye-contact.

I tried to in the course of therapy over the last year. Before I didn't even know I had to look at eyes or that they meant something to other people.

None, and I don't care.

I lack eye-contact completely, and I still don't care.

no improvement, but people don't bug me like when i was a kid.

i just rode metro/subway and was watching the people around me to analyze how they kept the eye contact. i chose two guys talking together. one of them was looking in the eyes of the other one all the time and the other one didnt look at all, he was looking around him every few seconds changing the object of his interest. the NTish guy was also taking most me the time. interestingly he didnt seem to mind that the other one didnt look at him once and was looking in his eyes anyway. it was very interesting and funny to watch how i look when talking with others. and i liked it actually.

My eye contact has improved significantly the past few years. It's still not like an NT, but it's pretty good. I don't know why. Maybe because I had babies and now there are people whose eyes I actually want to look at, and closeness I want to build and maintain.

lol i always look away wen i get eye contact so no i even had a disprovement

I just look at their mouth... no one yet has been able to notice the difference

I can look in the eyes, but cannot do it long before I divert my gaze to the window and go either into a pensive mode or look at what is happening outside there. But I also don't really look to read the eyes...I can spot at times. I have done the eye test and got an average of guessing moods or expressions

Yes a couple of years ago my shrink did some exercises that desensitised my eyes to direct gaze.

I don't always feel like looking though. Some eyes affect me more then others and there is a long term affect.

I used to have an instant jerk to the side, if I tried to do direct gaze. It was like looking into bright headlights. I don't feel it as strong as that anymore but I can still feel it. I have had the same felling looking at some picture and cartoon of eyes if they are farily acurate.

Last edited by 0_equals_true on 31 Aug 2008, 12:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

It was a similar thing with me, how was I supposed to know that people read your eyes...
I did not learn it in therapy but directly, so I think I created a few awkward situations where I kept eye contact too long.

It is better than before, but I still do not like keeping eye contact.