Do you people ever get mad at you when you try and socialize

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When you try and carry on a conversation or try and talk, people get mad at you or defensive, did they ever get mad at you or not appreciate you?

I was talking to a friend and she said "Do I need to tell you every single detail about my life?"
Well so much for trying to talk so I decided to just sit back and not say much and she can say whenever she wants to me and ask me anything about myself.

I've had that happen.

This used to happen to me because I was following "conversation protocol".

I thought "during conversation I shouldn't just talk about myself, but should show interest in another person, therefore I will go over these topics to balance it"... it was a rigid, mechanical approach, but also a learning experience.

It's apparently not enough to just have a conversation, but you have to have a conversation in the exact way NTs expect you to, or you're "rude", "embarassing", or whatever other crap people feel like throwing at you.

That's one of the main reasons why I operate a system of only socialising when I need to, so unless it's one of my few friends, a member or family, a teacher, etc, I won't talk to anyone unless they talk to me first, then if they don't like the way I socialise it's their own damn fault for talking to me

I can't remember that happening exactly.

Usually people looked taken aback or shocked when I try and socialise. It seems to interrupt their 'flow' - whatever the hell that is.

I've had that happen to me, while staying on the topic that a bunch of girls were. They just said, "Oh yeah, okay...whatever!" like a bunch of spolt Valley Girls. That turned me off to the mainstream population, right than and there.

People have never gotten mad at me for socializing,but it's the opposite.Some individuals who know well,get upset at me for talking to people.If I socialize would I get a reward for it?

People used to get frustrated with me that I would give more information about a topic or a person (or myself) in a conversation than what was needed. This was particularly frustrating for my boyfriend. I suspect that most people were annoyed with me but didn't tell me, and he was at least honest with me. Now I try to limit the information I give people.

YES.

Sitting on a bus, I heard a friend talk about her cosmetology courses.

I said,

" I didn't know you were in cosmetology!"

And she said ,

"YES, I am." And gave me the 'Like oh my god what an idiot, they've just ruined my day!' face.

Usually she just talks and I nod my head and laugh at the parts that your supposed too. That day I actually tried my hand at speaking to her for once. I must have upset the balance of the relationship or something.

So sorry I took an interest in your life, my friend.

people give me s**t for not socializing. but when i do socialize? someone's always right there to interrupt the conversation and "take" that person away from me, as though i had no right to talk, or like i'm not there at all. i find it very dehumanizing, i can't win either way. this is one of the main reasons why i hardly ever speak unless someone speaks to me first. negative reinforcement. basic high school psychology class will teach you that.