Anyone get stuck in their routines?

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So I am not working and I am on the computer to keep me busy. My husband thinks it's one of my obsessions but it's not. This forum is my obsession and I listen to A League of Their Own soundtrack on youtube and watch the movie on DVD but I got so stuck in this routine I find it difficult to get out. I feel stuck like I am trapped and it's a struggle to break free. I was able to get myself dressed and leave my apartment to drop off a package at the UPS place. There are other things that need to be done but I haven't done them because I am too lazy because I got stuck in my routine. I don't even go to sleep when I'm tired and then I finally do when it's like five in the morning for the past two days. Things do get done eventually but it just takes me longer to do them when I can finally get myself around to it. I'm starting to piss myself off it's not getting done.

I even had the same problem when I lived in Montana, I just preferred to be home and watch TV and do computer, the same thing every day I never wanted to go out. I preferred to be home and I knew that was bad because I would never meet men that way so I was depressed. I didn't complain I was still single because I knew it was my fault and I was just too lazy to even leave the house. I only left the house when I had to work or had to go shopping or if I went to my parents or to Missoula or Kalispell. But I never wanted to do anything else. I was stuck in my routines.

Even as a kid I just preferred to be home so I hardly did any after school programs or activities. I remember I have always preferred to be home.

Anyone else get stuck in their routines it's hard to do something else or get things done?

I do the same thing. At the moment I'm not working and not at school, so I have a lot of free time. I'm getting into the routine of waking up, surfing the net, walking the dog, surfing the net some more, playing computer games, and going to sleep. I'm trying to create a new routine where I'm more productive, but boy is it hard. Whenever I try to motivate myself to do something, even something as simple as doing the laundry, I get so transfixed on the thought of what I'm supposed to be doing now and can't seem to tear myself from that task. I'm moving to England in a month so hopefully the change of scenery will break my bad routines, but yeah it's really hard to snap out of them.

I'm getting into a routine of staying up VERY late...

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Last edited by Willard on 11 Jan 2010, 10:52 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Oh my goodness, yes. Yes, yes, double yes.

Sometimes, when things are going well, my "routine" involves working on a special interest. Like, last year, I was working on a creative project, and even though I wasn't getting other things done or leaving the house, I was feeling good about myself. But very often, like now, I go through a phase where I'm incapacitated by anxiety. I have this bizarre driving anxiety where I can't drive down certain streets sometimes. My poor kid has to meet me half-way, carrying a backpack that weighs almost as much as he does, because of my anxiety. The anxiety fuels depression, because I feel useless and defective, and like a burden to others. So...even though I would love to work on another creative project like I did last year, all I can do is sit here, paralyzed with fear and depression, unable to gather my resources and get started. I've managed to clear a space on my work table, though, so that's a start. On top of that, there is no one to talk to about any of this. People don't get it. They tell you to snap out of it, or read a self-help book, and if you really want to get better, you can. Blah blah.

I hate to think of it as "lazy", because that sounds like you're happily sitting on the couch, watching Oprah and eating twinkies, and saying, "Ha ha, all you suckers out there who are working! I'm not going to lift a finger to contribute to society, because the world owes me something, and I shouldn't have to do anything at all." But, I believe that's not what is going on with you, and I know it's not what's going on with me. It's really a feeling of being stuck. Stuck, like you want to move but you can't.

It's been a long time since I worked so I've got stuck doing this. If I've got nothing specific to do, I end up just doing the same things over and over. I just finished a load of decorating, which I'm really happy with, and I've suddenly got nothing to do so it's just internet, internet, cup of tea, go for a walk, internet...
Need to find something constructive to do.

Oh god, I never thought of myself as doing the routine thing, but this thread.. sounds like.. my life. That's awful. D:
I so need to take the trash out.
And I was going to go somewhere this week but I keep staying up so late that I wake up at like 3pm and then it gets dark like 2 hours later, so I haven't gone.
Fffffffffffffffffffffffff

Does anyone else feel like.. like you can't do one thing until you finish another thing, but something stops you from finishing the first thing so it sabotages your whole string of things you need to do? Or like... you have an hour to do something, but an hour doesn't seem like long enough, so you just worry about how you don't have enough time, until the entire hour has gone by?;;;;;;;;;;;;

Auuughhhh, get me outa here.;;;;;;;;;;;;

My mother said my routines might have been a security thing. They were never. I had objects that were security objects (though my stuffed bears were not my security objects like my mother said) but never security routines. Routines aren't tangible like that and they're not something I felt secure making my security thing because they are too easily destroyed.


Just thought I'd mention that, cuz some people say our routines are a security thing we developed.

I find myself getting stuck in routines, all the time. I have pizza at my clubhouse, after Toastmasters on Thursdays. I was at home waiting for a case of protective underwear that never came, so I went to a nearby pizza place at 5 PM and had two slices of pizza and a pop for supper.

I'm always stuck in my routines.

That is so me! You seriously just wrote exactly what I was thinking while reading this thread only I couldn't form it into words.