Do you get stressed "overwhelmed" I guess easy?

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Well my doctor called and said Oh you have an appointment tomorrow (I totally forgot!! ! I knew it was Jan. but not sure what day) I said fine. Then they called back about getting bloodwork done from July I FORGOT I had the paper!! !! ! (Found it and scheduled an appointment to get bloodwork done) while doing this I thought I'd call an endocrinologist my doctor recommended BUT they wanted me to send in a DAMN stack of papers before scheduling an appointment! (Had the papers since Sept. but thought oh the appointment is not til Nov) Later found out OH Nov. 25th appointment is CANCELED! Plus Holidays I didn't bother getting the papers done OR schedule a new appointment! THEN since bloodwork hasn't been done I REscheduled my regular Doctor for Feb. so I don't have 2 in a row (it would of been psychiatrist today at 4 and doctor tomorrow 4 Plus not having the Bloodwork done!) SHEESH I'm so stressed changing these appointments around and the Endocrinologist will not schedule me DAMN IT! AHHHHHH!! !! ! I feel overwhelmed I guess or stress whatever you want to call it and I was curious if others on the spectrum can relate LOL!

Yes. I have a REALLY low threshold for getting stressed and overwhelmed.

Yes. I don't even know why I have to find some simple things so hard to do and overwhelming. Just pick up the god damn phone and call, it's not hat hard, seesh. Same as when I have to go out and get something done, just get in my god damn car and drive and do it. How hard is that?
Now my bathroom needs to be cleaned and I haven't done it yet. Just grab the dog damn paper towels and spray and clean the toilet and sink. Or grab the plunger and the god damn comet and clean the toilet bowl seesh.
Why do I need to find these things stressful? So I slack off and be lazy.

I even wait till the last minute to reorder my folic acid pills and sometimes I go a few days without having any because I was too lazy to make another order

At least I can keep my apartment clean and I did the dishes this morning and made myself some eggs. I still have my tree up and all the Christmas stuff on the coffee table for it to be put away.

This happens to me, quite often. I have a bunch of flattened cardboard beside the table that I like to eat my nicer suppers at. Just looking at them drives me bananas. I think that I'll take them out, within the next five minutes. I've also been trying to connect my Nintendo Wii to my wireless, and that was stressing me out, so much that I was swearing. I usually break down and cry. Today, I was swearing. I get that from my mum. I've spend two days with her, and got my fair share of her swear words. I'm not going to swear, anymore. I'm going to cry, instead.

yes

I can get overwhelmed easily but these days I don't often get seriously stressed out by it. I guess I've learned over the years to keep my life fairly simple and to keep the crazy interactions with NTs down to a minimum. When I do get overwhelmed, I just try to reassure myself that nobody's going to eat me alive just because I freeze up occasionally. If I get a mental shutdown, I try to remember that my brain isn't shut down permanently, and that once I regain my equilibrium I'll probably be able to make better sense of whatever it is that caused me to flounder before. That's not been an easy lesson because my natural instinct is to feel that I'll lose track even more if I don't immediately regain my grip on the material, but I've started to realise that it's not usually harmful to just dismiss the problem for a while and give my brain a break doing something that makes me feel normal again.

But I still get bad feelings about being overwhelmed. Mostly it's anger at myself for not being able to keep up with the NT world, and at the NTs for being so fond of making sudden changes to what they expect of me. The number of changes the world makes to its expectations of me is fantastic, and it often feels like giving proper notice is against their religion.

It's always been worst in the workplace because I tend to equate my confusion with the threat of losing my job, but that hasn't been so much of a problem since I told them about my DX - objectively they'd have a hard time if they tried to kick me out for having a disability, and practically every problem I have with my employer is to do with AS, so in reality my job is pretty secure. I'm also prone to freaking out if I have to deal with authority figures of any kind, so I keep away from them and just communicate in writing if I really must talk to them at all.

one thing that actually made my stress worse for a while--and this has died down considerably--is that I tried constantly to keep myself on everyone's good side, because I feared I'd lose their loyalty, and potentially even them--if I did not.

I came to realize it wasn't even worth it, because their loyalty to me is mostly incredibly half-assed at best. One thing I learned was that little good came out of it, because they figured it easier to take advantage of me for it.

That's right...by being good to people, I got taken advantage of. So...what's the point in worrying what others think of you when they'll just take advantage?

So, I just flat-out stopped caring. I pretty much treated them closer to how they treated me....and I wound up getting treated better, because they apparently realized I wasn't taking their crap anymore!

A lot of these people also have "abused housewife" syndrome...meaning that they'll keep running back to people who treated them like complete and utter crap.

So I realized "if they'd so easily just dash back to those who treat them like they're worthless--cause they obviously already think that of themselves--do I really think they'd be crazy enough to drop the guy who treats 'em better than anyone else? Would they really be stupid enough? I doubt it"

An' believe it or not, it keeps 'em quiet! In fairness, I think it's totally pathetic and downright sad that it does, but if it's how ya gotta handle 'em, it's how ya gotta handle 'em.

It's actually harder for me to do that, you realize...one major thing for us is loyalty, and basically treating the people in our lives like gold. One thing you'll learn about most folks, unfortunately...is that they just don't deserve it. You deserve better.

I know exactly what you mean.....though in my case the chronology is reversed. I started out a lot more aggressive than I am these days - then I went and "improved" myself, which really boiled down to becoming more compliant and keeping quiet about my own objections to other people's behaviour. Why I did that, I don't know. There's no evidence that I was any less popular back then, when I was more selfish and nasty. Maybe the Aspie perfectionism comes into it, I always did feel that I should strive to become a "better person," and I've always been my own worst critic. Or maybe it's guilt and/or low self-esteem that's forced me to settle for less. Then there's this (silly?) notion that if I do as I would be done by, and act like a saint, then everything will eventually turn out good.

Somehow, when a friendship gets into trouble, I see it as my responsibility alone to fix it, and when I've ditched partners, I've felt haunted for years about whether or not I'd judged them too harshly and just had too many unrealistic expectations of them - i.e. it was all my fault. As if nobody I associated with has ever put a foot wrong

But that old personality of mine still feels too unseemly for me to go back to, amd I can't shake my affinity to the idea of a group of people getting it together in peace and harmony, or the idea that somehow it really is down to me to play as fair and decent as I know how.

Even in my nasty days I don't think I was all that courageous, and later I began to think that my new excessive tolerance thing might be down to poor confidence. I thought that perhaps all I needed was to learn, through showing a bit of mettle occasionally, that I needn't let fear hold me back. But I went through a few situations in which I managed to show that I can act very firmly, and what dismayed me was that it didn't strengthen me at all - even though my deeds of courage kind of worked and proved acceptable to the people around at the time, it didn't make the next time any easier, in fact I usually just felt drained.

no,

but there are some occurrences that induce me to "bust my bubble head" and become noteworthy to authorities.

a recent example was when i was going to the local shop in my car and i was driving up a narrow street that had cars parked on both sides of the street.

there was a stretch of road where only one car could fit through, and i was almost finished driving through that stretch when a 4 wheel drive vehicle turned into the street i was driving on and wanted to go in the opposite direction to me. she stopped in front of me and refused to budge because she had children in her back seat.

but she was only 10% of the way down the "one car wide" stretch that i had completed 90% of. if she had have stopped her vehicle 3 car spaces futher back, i would have been able to continue on my way, but she stopped obstinately in front of my car and beeped her horn.
she expected me to reverse all the way back because she felt she had right of way.
i did not reverse but i got out of my car and she locked her car and rang the police,

then i got back in my car and revved my motor ay her and the police turned up soon after, and they told her to back up and to let me pass.

maybe i should have just reversed and let her through.
i was very angry at her however and i was paralyzed as to doing anything she wanted me to do.

I have a hard time keeping everything in place, when it comes to scheduling things, or trying to do multiple tasks at once. I think the fact that I have autism, means that I am so inwardly focused on doing one thing, that it is very difficult to try and do something else at the same time as well.