Aspies...

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...make better friends than NT's

Some ways yes, some ways no. I find it depends on the aspie & NT you are comparing

In some ways, yes because they tend to make good friends with somebody which is more friendly and actually true to themselves or is similar to what they are?

But also no, because they sometimes get rejected in a friendship or they having troubles with friendship wise...

Don't forget, it really just depends on the person and what they are like to be honest, I can't exactly judge on that one but that is a pretty interesting question.

if i could make a friend it would be astonishing.
i do not even know how to "make" an average person who would not understand me, let alone make a "friend".

i can not make people. they just happen naturally.
mostly, the ones that come from nature are embroiled in their own desires.
that is why i am tucked away in my solitude.
i do not understand people at all.

Then why are you employed?

No offense, off-topic, but I find THAT amazing.

Might the answer be "to earn an income"?

I can't make friends at all. I do inappropriate stuff and don't know what to talk about and sometimes act immature or bore people with facts that they don't want to know.

Apparently, I'm an annoying boring emo attention seeker.

I think this is true, when they actually manage to make friends. It must take a lot to befriend an aspie when you are not one.

i was not being serious in the first part of my reply.
when you said "make" better friends, i first conceived of it as "build" better friends (for 1/4 second) and i found that it is interesting to think of "constructing" friends in a laboratory.

so i answered with that idea in mind, but the last part was serious. i do not understand people.

i work from my home and i do not have to interact with anyone except on the phone.

I always get stuck in that 1/4 second.

Someone says something, you have that instant literal or clever take on what they said then realise what they meant, but you *want* to carry on with the correct thought, the natural one, the obvious one. It's less work, it fits better, it's easier to play with.

I can be having a long conversation with someone, usually at work, on a certain topic and all though it i'm focusing really hard on what they're saying and trying hard not to let my natural self speak becuase i just want to keep playing on that initial literal meaning.

So i enjoyed your post and think we should set up a business together running a factory that makes friends for aspies, we could tailor then to have few social needs and just be around when we need them, using all those intuitive NT powers to know when to talk, when to shut up, when to help us and when to just go away!

Autistic people would make horrible parents and friends. I have met some autistics who are very shy, or some who are not shy, but interact oddly (talking loudly or saying things that aren't appropriate).

Speak for yourself. My best friend is a classic autistic.

Anyway, it depends on the person. I get along better with Aspies than NTs, but an NT would probably have the same communication problems with my Aspie/Autie friends that I have with NTs. On the other hand, I've met a couple Aspies whom I have nothing in common with, or just find irritating. Probably some have found me irritating, too. That's life. Odds are, if I hit it off with someone, they're either very nerdy or nerdy and on the spectrum, though.

I don't care if someone finds me interesting or not, and I only want to be surrounded by aspies and NT's, something I am.