How to cope with mornings

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I have been living unhappily for more than a year at my current place. I have difficulty getting up in the morning, wanting to spend more time dreaming. Sometimes I shut myself off and not heed I have work to do.

I don't know if my symptoms are due to depression or asperger's. This started to happen when I discovered friends of mine are saying things about me behind my back.

I want to focus on work ideally, but I couldn't handle mornings... My vacation is almost over and I can't imagine what happens when I go back to work. can you help me?

Try to make the morning as good for you as possible. What do you like most? Computer games, reading, listening to music? Do something you absolutely LOVE for about ten minutes before you go to work.

If dreaming is your favourite thing to do, every night when you need to sleep for work the day after, look forward to your dreams as much as possible and appreciate how important your dreams are to you, so you will be more satisfied with them when you have them.

If my explanations were too much/NT for you I understand, but that is what I would do personally.

I can not function at all in the morning. I do much better through late evening into early morning. I've noticed that the ambient noise level of the outside world has a lot to do with my constant anxiety. I realized this noise level difference over 20 years ago. It was late at night and I was playing music on my stereo. The volume seemed a little loud for the late hour (I lived in an apartment building). The next day, I turned the stereo on but had not touched the volume control. It seemed that I could barely hear it. I realized that there must have been a huge difference in the ambient outside noise level that we sort of tune out but it is still there. I feel jangly all day long most of the time.

I'm not big on getting up in the morning either, but I do it because I have to. The only times I like getting up in the morning is on weekends and days off believe it or not. The reason is that I can drink my morning coffee, get on the net, or get on ham radio, and not have to get out in traffic and go to work.

Perhaps spending a little time doing something you love to do in the morning before leaving would help.

I have a lot of trouble getting up in the morning. It seems to be worse in the winter (like seasonal affective disorder? or maybe cold feet on the wood floor hehe). It's been this way my entire life. The later it gets, the better I am. BUT sometimes I have to get up extremely early (like 3:30-4am) for work...and this doesn't seem to be a problem. In school, I got poor grades in certain early classes just because I couldn't seem to get out of bed for them.

The things that help me the most are:
Don't drink caffeine...this helps me avoid needing it to function (i.e. OMG I can't get out of bed...where's my coffee?!)
Go to bed at a reasonable hour, so that I can get 8+ hours of sleep at night
"White noise" in the background (I have an aquarium), which helps keep me from hyperfocusing on "night noises" like the upstairs neighbor's dumb dogs fooling around or the furnace kicking on and turning off
Don't do something immediately before bed that requires a lot of thought and will prevent you from sleeping...I feel like watching a really intense and thought-provoking movie or reading a book like that will keep me up and may prompt restless sleep/bad dreams
Do enjoyable things in the morning: take a hot shower, go for a walk, cook bacon and eggs, eat Golden Grahams
Eat enjoyable things for lunch: pack things you LIKE eating, not just the same boring sandwich every day, or go out to lunch to try someplace new (even without coworkers/friends)
Find something pleasurable to do after work: go to the gym, volunteer at the Humane Society, get a massage, take a swim, cook dinner, read a book, visit a friend/parent, take a walk and take photos, get ice cream, etc.

I generally either really dislike work, or if I like it the hours are soooo long that I'm totally exhausted and really bummed out by the thought of the day-to-day exhaustion grind that never seems to end. So I feel like if I don't get out of bed, I can stop the cycle. Nonsense, right?

Also, try to cultivate a thicker skin. We're kinda weird by default. Sometimes people are going to be confused by our behavior, and to understand it they're going to ask others (friends, coworkers) about us/what we did/said. It's just something we need to deal with. If it's mean-spirited, they weren't your friends anyway...which kinda sucks, but not in the long run. If it's just questions, let them talk. Then you'll know who your true friends are because they'll defend you and come to understand you.

BUT if you are doing something like making bad decisions, maybe you should think about what you yourself are doing.

Good luck!

I am the opposite.

I am raring to go as early as 3:00am most of the time.

I also have problems waking up.

It seems to have to do with cortisol. NTs have a peak of it in the morning, but we don't. When I moved to cold Europe, it got much worst. If I have few hours of sleep, I have no problem.

I went to a psychiatrist and started to take atypical antidepressants. They saved my job!! !

If anyone wants to discuss more, can write me.