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I still cannot make up where to go for an Asperger’s test or if it’s just ‘my personality

As a child I suffered from glue ear and had hearing problems which a lot of my social problems were blamed on.

My mother use to take me to other kids parties, school etc. and I would get to the door and just completely meltdown and refuse to go in. I never had May friends and always struggled to relate to child my own age. I was a ‘tom boy’ and always in to soccer and racing cars and a target for bullies.

Things didn’t improve as I became a teenager, I still felt like a little kid while all my peers seem to be growing up. I hung around with a group of girls in my class but was the odd one out.

I then became obsessed with a certain pop star of the time and became even more marginalised as I was told that’s all I ever talked about.

My family were always very strict with me and praise was practically non-existence.

I left school with few qualifications and no social life. Boyfriend were also non-existence, I got asked out once or twice but the thought of having to cope with a close relationship I guess I did feel ready for freaked me out.

I did reasonable well academically at college but hated group work and struggled again socially, with just one friend and I only ever felt comfortable taking with those who shared my obsession for soccer.

At work I was lucky that the majority of the office shared my passion for soccer and socialise use to involve a lot of alcohol, which helped me but again I was never confortable. Some thought I was false, i.e. using the obsession to chat to guy while other did sometimes accuse me of saying tactless things.

I am a very sensitive person and get upset very easily by the things people say and do. I’m told I take things to personally/literally. I am very hard on myself, do not forgive any mistakes and worry obessively about things.

I hate my routine being disturbed and am told I am quite critical of my family if they do something wrong, i.e. don’t clean the bath tub properly or signal incorrectly when driving.

I’m not keen on physically contact, especially if not asked for although I’m happy for my 3 year niece to hug me.

Depression and loneiness have haunted me since my teens; I’m now in my 30’s.

People, including my GP, have commented that I show Aspie traits but that it 'could just be my personality'. Do I sound like an Aspie to you? Should I pay considerable amount of money it costs to be tested or is it just me?

Your opinions would be appreciated, I just don’t know anymore.

I think you have every reason to get an evaluation. Obviously I can't diagnose you over the Internet, but what I see are traits that go quite a long way beyond the typical range and probably do cause the significant impairment that's required for diagnosis. Even if you weren't diagnosable, you would still be quite justified in going to a doctor with those traits and asking, "Okay, who's an adult autism specialist, and can I see them and figure out whether somebody missed this when I was a kid?"

Thanks, I guess I just scared of spending a lot of money to be told 'its just you'.

Am also very depressed at the mo which isn't helping.

I had the same sort of fear in deciding to be tested, I viewed it sort of like gambling. I got comfortable enough with the odds that I had AS, until gambling a certain quantity of money to get a more definitive answer made sense.

keep in mind that if its not AS, the specialist will probably have some advice about what else might be wrong. I never considered that, but the specialist I saw said it as if it should have been obvious to me.

Equally though, getting told "it's AS" might not be as helpful as you hope, It was not really for me. Other phsyc services might get more positive change per dollar paid.

I just realized this could be misinterpreted badly, i'm not trying to say wither you should get tested or not, I really don't know.
This is just basically what it was like being in a similar situation

You should get tested, if that's what you want.