Getting worried about guests coming over

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The title says it all.

Today somebody is coming to visit the house and it is kinda making me feel uneasy. What do I say? She will mostly talk to my mom but I know there will be a time when there has to be some kind of a formal greeting.

Anyone have any stories relating to this?

Whew. I get a little anxious just thinking about you having to deal with that.

Can you be in the shower when she arrives? Or, just get a favorite book or whatever and be sitting comfortably and as relaxed as possible even *well before* she arrives ... then just acknowledge her with a friendly "Hi" or something and go back to your book.

For me, it's both ways round.

This girl I like, who I think may like me, keeps inviting me round and I just keep making excuses, although the last two times i've truthfully been busy :/

I do know what you mean though. For me, if there is anybody in the house other than people I trust, I cannot relax completely properly until they are gone.

The worst for me are window cleaners. It's like their invading my sanctuary. Banging on my windows, peering in

If you do not think you would be comfortable reading where they will be socializing, then a simple, "Hello, nice to meet you." would be completely appropriate before ducking back into your room. If she is your mother's friend, you are not really required to entertain her, she's there to visit with your mom.



After that you can go (quietly as possible) stim alone in your room. If you let your mother know you feel uneasy, she can just tell her friend that you are shy.

Well this is how it happened.

My sister comes down and says, "Michael, mom wants you to come up and say hello."

I uneasy at this point.

But I try to be nice and I go upstairs and say, "Hi." That's it.

Then I sit on the chair and just listen to them. It would be rude I suppose if I just went rite back down stairs.

In the end I never looked her in the face but I found the conversation between her and my mom interesting.

Apparently her mom was recently diagnosed with schizophrenia. She was telling a story about how the mom was running up and down the street in a bath robe and saran wrap on her head. She then went into another mans house and took a bath.

I get very uneasy when this is even announced. I try to disrupt things as much as possible because I get so stressed. This leads to other people getting annoyed and trying to get me away or act more appropriate. One time when I got very stressed was when my sister signed up for a program which involved someone from Italy coming to our house. I was prepared for this or at least, as prepared as I possibly could have been, and my mother told me to act nice or something and I was not happy with this because I thought it meant she was ashamed of me. But what made me far more stressed was when my sister brought her friends and they were drinking and listening to loud music in her room and it was all too much and my mother didn't tell me so I couldn't be prepared but it wouldn't have mattered much in terms of sensory overload because it was very noisy and the people were disturbing me greatly and my sister came upstairs to get some soft drinks and I wouldn't let her and I stopped her and my mother got very mad at me and pulled me by the hair and it hurt and I was mad at her back. It really made me distrust my mother because she hurt me while I was already incredibly stressed and my sister called her and she said her friends could come over and she didn't tell me and I am also mad at myself because I let them in.

I get apprehensive not only about people coming to my house but when I go to theirs as well.
I do my damnedest not to let it show, though, or give them any idea I have issues with it.
Even with people i know I'd rather meet them somewhere neutral.

Three of my Mum's friends are coming to the house on Wednesday, and they are nice people, but they are quite loud when they have been drinking. I say hello, and they ask me how I am, how school is, generally things like that. I don't like to tell them too much, and I usually go and play on my computer before they begin to get too loud.