/sigh... when will I learn my lesson?

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So... I joined a parents site that was supposed to be a support group for parents of children who have autism.

Well, one would think I would have learned my lesson the time before... and before that... and maybe before that.

I really don't know why I bother anymore, but I go through these periods of being completely blissfully unaware of what is going on with people and all this ever does is wind up stirring up a ton of "why" questions.

The people there.... were nutty. They were insane! It started off okay, then the vaccination debate junk came up, of course, and I expected the group owner to put a stop to it, or try to look at it objectively, at least, in her responses.

But no, she joined right in with the finger pointing and all... basically the whole "you're right, I'm wrong" stuff, with ban threats included towards those who didn't support her opinion.

I left the group yesterday, but I can't help but to realize how different I am from others a lot of the time... and of course, after seeing that much negativity around the word "autism", I feel kind of... broken. Not like, in a way where I want to be "fixed" or "cured", but I just feel misplaced.

Being the voice of reason at times, or trying to be, leaves a very blank and even more invisible feeling when it comes to trying to help out, or get involved, and ultimately just backfires.

It just makes me realize, that a lot of normal people are just very irrational because they do a lot of things based on emotion. Not all of them are so bad, I'm sure, and of course, I doubt it's an all-day long affair... but these moments stick out in my mind as "this is what I want you and my kids to be!", because they ultimately define what is "normal" or "acceptable" for them. Personally, I want no part of it.

Thanks for listening to my ramblings... and I'm not sure if this post even makes a ton of sense... I just really needed to vent, and while my boyfriend is very supportive, he doesn't "get it" in the full sense.

Sounds like mod abuse. Threatening to ban you just because you don't agree with them.

Maybe there should be a ASD parenting board and it be for parents on the spectrum

Yes, /agreed about the mod abuse.

Her group though, so I guess she can do what she wants.

I'd like to make a group like that one day... but am always too sidetracked by other things to be able to keep up with it, haha.

We have a parent's group on WP? It happened here? That surprises me.

Ugh, I was on an ADD site (parents section) and one member brought up the vaccine and autism link. And I linked the article about how the study has been retracted. But of course she didn't believe me and said something like 'I know the vaccine are one way autism and ADHD are caused.'
I just ignored it. I could argue until my fingers bled and they wouldn't change their mind.

But yes how wrong for a mod to abuse their power like that. I know of a forum where the mods abuse people. It's in their rules to not single out a person and abuse them, but many mods break this rule.