Ever felt like you don't fit into any group?

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Ever felt you don't fit into any group?

Sometimes, yes, I feel like I don't fit into any groups.... When I was younger, some people wouldn't want me to join into any of their games and at the time I didn't seem to understand why? Could it possibly be because they know I have autism or the fact i'm socially awkward?

Sometimes I would have to isolate myself because of it and it seemed so upsetting and that was like... It even occasionally happens but this time it sometimes feels it and then I wouldn't say anything and let them blah blah blah on and on....

Also some of them didn't want to be friends with me either...

Now that i'm older, things seem to change... I definitely try and fit into the group and now got sets of friends and that was when I looked back and realised, "yeeh, that's what I was doing wrong", I turned it around and now I feel wanted or sometimes too much...

But at times I have my down days.... and feel like that...

I'm just curious if anyone has ever went through or is going through a similar patch?

Last edited by superboyian on 25 Jan 2010, 6:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I had this really badly from the age of 10, until I was in my mid twenties. It's definitely improved over time. Now there are social groups that I can be a part of, but I still feel a bit outside of them, and I don't want to interact as much as other people do.

I think there's just a really tough period between about 10 and 16, when people really start noticing each other's differences. Kids band together into tribes for safety in numbers, and if you don't fit in, you're left vulnerable.

Even in my early twenties, I was still getting hassle from people, although I fitted in a bit better. I think the older I got, the better I got at finding people like me, and the more choice I had to stay away from people that I couldn't relate to.

I never really fit in with anyone, I just stay by myself mostly.

Yes and I don't mind. I like to keep to myself out of school and preferably during school too.

I've found I fit in quite well with a group of people who don't fit in - that is to say, I found a place in the box marked miscellaneous.

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My situation on this front at the moment is, I think, pretty much like how you described yours superboyian.

Thanks I actually weirdly enough thought about this while I was washing the dishes and that just came into my mind.... but also I want to share my experience how my life was so incase one my family member pump into this thread, most likely my dad would... He could understand how it felt for me as a young kid.... My dad is also a member of WP funnily enough



I did too at that age.... I think my problem is the fact I don't want to interact as the other people did because meeting new different people would be difficult for me at the time on top of that... Yet weirdly enough, I feel like joining in their games... which did not seem to make sense but that was me at that age.

Totally know what you mean. Throughout school I had a few different little groups I socialized with, but I never felt like I really identified with them. School was tough because of that feeling of isolation. Even now, most of the time I feel like I'm on the outside looking in. It doesn't bother me too much anymore because I like solitude and I understand myself better, but I'd like to find one of my own "miscellaneous boxes" that McTell is talking about. A handful of close, like-minded friends sounds like a nice thing.

I've never fit in with anyone.

I was always treated as if I were an alien or something that c I even had dificulity fitting in with people who are supposedly fans of things that are my special intrest. They tell me I need help because the intensity of my intrest isn't "normal". I have trouble relating to other AS people here and trouble fitting in here. An leper amung lepers.

For years I never fitted into any group since elementary school. Even at the non-public school there was no cliques. I had interests (the general otaku culture) that are different from the mainstream interests of my dormates and college. The only places where I fit in are the niche (the internet subculture and the otaku subculture), that is where most of my socialization takes place for years.

Of course. story of my life.
I don't even fit in with Autism Advocacy groups.
I'm too singular in the end, and the politics and dynamics of the group ends up confusing the heck out of me. It takes all my effort to try to keep up with people. yuck.
and I end up being a whistleblower on issues I find unethical but that everyone else finds acceptable.

No fit topic topic

Notice I did not say unfit or misfit. I just do not fit. I prefer being ouside the boundary, a sort of meta-human, not in any "race".

IT can be hard for me to feel like I fit in a group. Much of it is due to getting tired too quickly to have myself understand what is going on. Being part of groups more effort than I can possibly have sometimes.

I've found my own miscellaneous box that I fit in to. I fit in with all types of misfits who are different.

Often.

I gave up letting myself care a long time ago...I embrace my uniqueness and live in my own little world...