Do aspies miss friens and family?

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I wonder if this is an aspie trait. I seldom if ever miss people. I want to know my family and friends are ok but as long as they are ok I don't miss them. In fact visiting, even on holidays is a painful interruption in routine for me.
any one else?

I always miss people, because I get attached to people very easily.

I'd say it depends on the person on the spectrum. Some do and some don't if the person is ok.

It is fairly true of me, but I think it may be pandemic in my family.

My family and my REAL friends - I don't miss them / long for them if they are on the other side the world, though I may often wish they were there to share an interesting thing or ask a question etc. Like wishing I had a peanut butter sandwich right now.

The thing is - I have always so understood it - they are so much part of the real world that they are never much more than in the next room.

An exception - my late best friend [lung cancer, smoked like a furnace]. I feel a serious emptiness in the next room there. Before, I COULD have shown up by her or she by me.

I miss them; that doesn't mean I often want to see them. But there are aspects of them that I become almost nostalgic for.


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I've never missed my family or friends. There was only one time when I have missed someone. That was when I came back from a 2-week holiday in London with a friend. Our host family was a lovely elderly couple and after we came back I missed them so much that it physically hurt (which confused the hell out of me).

That sounds just like me!
But then again, when I lived with my family, it was nothing but conflicts, so I was more-than-happy to finally escape.
Any friends I make just tend to get more and more distant over time. I don't really care.

It's kinda wierd and somewhat disruptive to my life whenever a family member calls. Even more disruptive when someone comes to visit me. Just leave me be!

I only miss my home. I don't really mind. It would be inconvenient if my mother died, though, because I can do very little.

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I don't like to visit people, or people coming to visit. It's very disturbing. The only people I miss anyway, one of them is in San Diego, and he cares nothing for me anymore, and the other two are dead.

The only one I miss is one of my ex-gf, a romanian woman who i loved a lot, i miss our moments together, i miss her as a person, i miss us and our jokes and i miss her beauty. I love my sister and mother, i think my dad is nice but he annoys me a lot.. I don't miss friends (the three or four i have).

I'm the opposite. I'm usually a total mess when I leave my family, even if it's only for a few days. I'm moving abroad next week and am already getting overly emotional about it. Of course when I'm living with them I keep to myself all the time.

There are a couple of dead folks that I do miss.

Pretty much, if they are fine and ok then i don't care and have no intention of seeing them since it busts my pattern.

I used to be like that. I had very intense attachments and emotions for people. But as I experience more and more rejection, I become more and more emotionally dulled. I don't connect with people anymore at all because I have strong trust issues and don't know what to expect from anyone. How do I know what other people are thinking of me? Maybe they all hate me even though they smile and say nice things to me. My emotional attachment to objects has gotten stronger and stronger over the years.

I used to be very emotionally sensitive to everything people said and did around me, as well as having vivid emotional responses to different sensory stimuli. Now, I don't even remember the last time I actually cried out loud.

I miss how it used to be with my family and friends. I grew up with them, and they are part of who I used to be then. But my family imploded, and we are all spread out all over the continent. It can never be like it was again. There's just too much baggage and pain for any of us to want to face it.

Over the years, the friends I used to have drifted away, we have all gone away and done our own thing, and lost contact with each other. Some of my old friends were left over from the time when I used to be inclined to substance abuse. I don't do that anymore, and I live far, far away from them and will never see them again. I figure that we don't have much in common anymore, except the memories of when we used to hang out and get stoned. I've actually got my life together now, and they are probably still doing that same old thing, just like always. So I've made no effort to find any of them.

So I miss the times and some of the people I was there with, but I don't know what we would have to say to each other now. Some things are better as memories.

I miss people sometimes. Sometimes I miss them a lot. But there are times when I'm glad to be away from my family or times I just want to be alone.