Are you also an person who can't go places on your own?

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I'm writing this topic today because, I know someone who is an aspie who can't at all go places on her own, she can do it as she has road sense but her mum keeps her in because she worries about her...

For crying out loud she is 17 and should be able to do that stuff and she tells me that she wants to be independent but she never gets the chance to do that... At the school, the school offered if she learned how to do that but her mum disagrees and decides to not let her do it because she is too extremely worried that she would have a severe meltdown in the middle of the road.

Are you also an person who can't go places on your own?


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Luckily that wasn't a problem because I didn't find out I had Asperger's until I was 17--about six months after I got my license. So my mother never thought I couldn't go out on my own or anything. When I was 18 I went to Europe by myself. I mean, I was this American girl who only spoke English and some Spanish wandering around the streets of Paris by myself. It was crowded, sometimes noisy, everything was in French and I couldn't read it...no meltdown.

I've had meltdowns on the road, but it's not like it was so bad that I was in any danger. I think each of those times were related either to traffic or someone almost hitting me...the one time someone was trying to pass and got into my lane and we almost had a head-on collision. I promptly meltdowned, and my body automatically did the right thing and pulled quickly off the side of the road just in time to avoid an accident. I was freaking out pretty good, but I took a short break to catch my breath and got back on the road and drove to the Metrolink to go to school.

I don't think there's any good reason someone who thinks they are capable of going out on their own shouldn't be given a chance to try, but obviously I have no say in the matter. My sympathies to your friend. She'll have to wait till her mother no longer has a say in it.

My mother was very overprotective of me. First time I caught a train to Sydney was when I was 19. Even when I was going to take photos in a pub she told me not to talk to strangers, lol.
Now going to Sydney by train is as easy as riding a bike, and I don't mind if strange people talk to me in a pub.
She does ask me if it's a good idea to go out after I've had a meltdown, but I just get on with it.
But yes, when I was 17 I wasn't allowed to go out. My brothers and sisters went to music festivals but I never was allowed. They went with friends and because I was on my own I wouldn't be allowed to go.

I'm 19 and I'm not allowed to go anywhere by myself. My mom said she'll think about letting me take public transport someday. Driving is absolutely out of the question. My dad gets all worked up when I go out to the park... that's right outside our backyard and completely visible from a window. My parents are just a little overprotective, I think.

I am 45 years old, so I go places on my own. And as a 16 year old years ago, my parents let me go places on my own---but we didn't know of AS back then. I read road maps well. But, if I go into some place like a shopping mall with several roads leading in and out of it that I am not familiar with, I get turned around like you wouldn't believe. Also, I often walk into a restroom in a restaurant for example, and then when I exit the restroom I might turn the wrong way and head toward the kitchen or something. I really have to pay attention to landmarks in places I am not that familiar with. On trips when I am driving, my wife has to really help me out a lot with directions.

At 13 I was working to help pay bills, so if my parents didnt at least let me go to the park, they would be hypocritical.

geez, .Most people would lose freedom by going to jail, but it sounds like your friend would GAIN it by going to jail.

Yep, I can. Infact I just went for a walk at 10pm alone.

Except for my dog, but an 11 year old Labrador probably doesn't count.

For the most part, I am one who can't go anywhere on my own. But I can go alone to the bank or to a small store (a convenient store or CVS) if I walk in knowing exactly what I need. I go to gas stations on my own. I can't go clothes shopping or food shopping on my own (e.g., Kroger, Target, or the mall).

Also if I want to go to a park or playground just to swing on the tire swing, I would ask my boyfriend to take me.

I think I'm not more restricted than anyone else of my age. However, I don't go out as much simply because I don't need to. I think I could go to places alone, I've just never really done so.

I walk home from school on my own, and sometimes go to the shops on the way too.

I'm too scared to go on buses or anything, though.

I restrict myself. The outside world has very little to offer to me.

I can't go anywhere, cause I can't drive.

I go places on my own, my mum used to be over protective and still can be sometimes. But since I got a free buss pass I have loads more freedom, I can go out to the city centre and do some shopping when I feel like it, but there are only certain places I can go at the moment because I only know one or two bus routes, I'd like to remember more of them so I've got more places to go. I started going out with friends when I was 12-ish and I started going out properly on my own without any friends when I was 16.
My mum wants me to wait a few years before I learn to drive, she thinks I'm not ready and she also wants me to make the most of my free travel.