Are you comfortable with talking to out-going people?

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I mean "out-going" as in those who would initiate conversations with "the quiet kid" (not sure if there is a better term for that word).

I find that I am comfortable with talking to those types of people since they are the ones who opened up to you in the first place so you would expect a somewhat high tolerance from them even when I say stupid or socially awkward things.

Popular people who are not "out-going" on the other hand, I don't understand them. I don't understand how they can be so popular in the first place if they don't initiate conversations.

It depends.

But usually Out-Going people give me more a happy feeling then Introverted people.
Out-Going people are usually nicer but more straight to your face.

I don't mind it. Depends on the mood I'm in at the time.

Usually outgoing people intimidate me almost as much as physically beautiful women do. So unless they are very kind, I prefer not to be around them. It doesn't help that a lot of sound makes me uncomfortable and can give me a headache. So if they are outgoing and loud about it, I'm out.

No, I'm generally not. It feels like they're constantly overtaking me, asking people all the "right" questions and doing all the social niceties before I get the chance to do anything myself. They make me look and feel introverted. They seem to talk too much. They're on a different wavelength to me.

Though it depends what you mean by "outgoing" - maybe I've just described the kind of yattering busybodies that most people would find annoying. If they're respectful and sensitive, no problem.

I love outgoing people. They usually speak their mind, so they're easier to figure out. Shy people are hard to read, so I spend the entire time paranoid about what they're thinking.

This.

I also find that conversation is kind of like dancing and I prefer the other person to take the lead. Then I just match their moves. It feels like I can ride on their wave of social abilty (mixing metaphors here).

I also like it when people aren't too shy too interrupt me when they get bored or when I go off on a tangent.

This.

I also find that conversation is kind of like dancing and I prefer the other person to take the lead. Then I just match their moves. It feels like I can ride on their wave of social abilty (mixing metaphors here).

I also like it when people aren't too shy too interrupt me when they get bored or when I go off on a tangent.

I like outgoing people, well, some of them, too much might get a bit overwhelming, but I like outgoing people because then I can just sit and listen to them. But I also like it when they give me an opportunity to talk when I do have something to say. But I like the girls who in my school years were outgoing enough to talk to me, the "quiet shy kid" because that's pretty much how I got friends.

oh my god, YES, someone who can keep a conversation going with no awkward silences is like HEAVEN to me. Its more of a requirement that the person be laid back as opposed to outgoing though.

No.
I do not like them, their interests are not like mine.
They scare me.

I know their interests are not like mine because I am not outgoing and not because I cannot be outgoing (I cannot, but that is not the reason) but because I do not want to, and the need for social interaction goes with other things (not naming examples due to lack of experience and fear of inaccuracy).

I'm an extroverted introvert, lol... if that makes any sense.

I'm fascinated by people, in large part because I am unable to understand them.

I usually sought out the kid sitting by himself, figured he'd have more interesting stuff to talk about, and I wouldn't have to deal with the annoyance of being surrounded by other kids.

My girlfriend is extremely outgoing, but very intuitive to what is going on in my head, making it easy to talk to her, big part of why I love her, I suppose.

When I had a problem talking to people, I'd hop up on a fence, or sit in a tree and talk to them from up there.

Out-going nice people are easier to talk to than introverted people. For quiet people you kinda have to figure them out and work with them but they more laid back though.

I have found alot that there are times I *should* be shy that I am not and I can come off as arrogant and confrontational, it's almost off-topic but it just goes to show this is not the same thing as 'shyness' or social anxiety. It really doesn't matter if the person is extroverted or introverted for me, but alot of times the 'theory of mind' stuff is going to mess it up no matter what I do. People who are into hegemony pretty much terrify me no matter their personality because I've been burned by them so much.

Not at first, but I get used to it, and I come to enjoy the person's stories.

LOVE the outgoing folks *if* they're patient enough to let me try to explain what I'm trying to say and don't just talk over me.

Quiet people are tough. I can't figure out what they want. The great conundrum - that they are themselves quiet and could probably use a friend, like me, but I have no idea how to act or what to say so they make me uncomfortable.