Across the room their eyes met...

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I would love to put here the Far Side cartioon with that caption, but we'll do without. I have significant social imparments [ask almost anybody I have interacted with socially] though I mostly get classed as jerk, not impaired. One thing the U is good for - so many jerks a different jerkiness is not so conspicuous as it might be elsewhere.

Anyway, the point: despite being low on empathy / social perceptivity except with a restricted population, I have a very good record of recognizing, almost as soon as I meet somebody, whether he/she will be friend, foe, or neutral, taker or giver or neutral, understanding, temporarily tolerating, or mistrusting.

People I have interacted with long term - I have had few bad guesses. I have a casual conversation with three strangers, and I know already which one will go long term. Stranger comes into the room, I know he is my arch enemy to be. Nothing I do will change it.

My wife claims not to have the talent. Anybody?

Well my sister has a 'gift' for knowing who is a creep or pedo. She's been right so many times.

As for me, I give everyone a chance. There are some I can tell that we'd never get along but I give them one chance and if they reveal themselves to be an a**hole I move on.

Im 38 and live in sydney, australia

For me too i have to give everyone a chance and although over 96% of people in my life have turned out to be disappointments and hurtful, i still give people the benefit of the doubt.

I cant read people at all.

Oddly though i have better luck with animals, people have learned (sometimes the hard way) to listen to me when it comes to animals.

I have a friend of the family who owns a farm and who got some new horses. I was comfortable around all but 1 of the 3 new horses, like a weird sixth sense. I told the guy that the one horse really shouldnt be ridden for a while until he had become more comfortable with people. Well this was before people listened to me, so i was ignored, a week later the horse nearly kicked the guy in the chest and neasly killed him and it took him six months to recover......

Then there have been the usual domestic pets, i havent met a cat or dog yet that didnt immediately abandon its owner for me. A cousin i met for the first time last year had a cattledog with her that she had saved from the pound. I rocked up and hadnt met either of them before and within minutes the dog was sitting beside me with her head in my lap a complete sook. My cousin said she couldnt believe it, she said the dog doesnt trust any man but me, apparently her previous owner had badly mistreated her and ever since she hasnt trusted any man. Ive seen the dog since with other members of the family who are men and its 100% true.

And the other proof that animals are better judges of character than people is the time when i was about 20 and a friend was in trouble and i couldnt get their parents on the phone, i instead got a train to their place about 100 miles away. I got to their place and it was surrounded by a high fence with no doorbell or anyway of getting their attention , so i had to jump it. So i did, and walked right up to the front door, where i found two rottweilers sitting on t he porch. They didnt give me a second look as i knocvked on the door. My friends parents were far more surprised, couldnt understand how i got to the door without being eaten by the guard dogs....

I guess im lucky i have far better experiences with animals, because happy experiences with people still eludes me....

I have learned not to expect much form people, but regardless to treat them better than ive been treated

My AS son has lack luster experience with both.

Would play with kids who were really mean to him, one who flashed his junk at him even, unless I specify that he cannot hang out with that person because they are not healthy. Animals are very touch and go with him also though. He has been nipped on the face by several dogs. It does not seem to matter how often I tell him to respect their personal space. Gets right up to their muzzle.