Wallourdes wrote:
Hello everyone,
I see a lot of threads appearing with the question about how to be 'normal'.
Let's clarify the word "normal" with help of
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/normal (the site doesn't let me copy/paste stuff).
Normal is a wishful average, nobody is 100% up to that norm.
You can fake until you make it, but the danger is that your can become like the norm entirely and thus not differentiating yourself from other people and thus failing to become unique.
Act, do not become.
Things you can try to get your act together are ettiquette, non-verbal communication (intonation, facial expressions, distancing, posture, etc.) and general talking subject (weather, news, sports, etc.). Some people simply don't have empathy, no shame in that - try work-arounds and get read-up on morale and ethics.
I think being/becoming yourself is vital and atleast developing just enough social skills to perform is something i'd highly recommend to be able to progress in human contact.
This might be a very rough how-to guide based upon my own knowledge and experiences, but I hope it helps atleast a little.
Cheerfully,
Wallourdes
When it comes to "normal" i agree.
However i dont actually think people who use the term actually mean what it literally says. Instead like you said they're talking about a norm, which means people are socially acceptable, from other peoples perspectives. I often cross that "boundary" but i find ways which enable me to cross back over, if it causes trouble to other people.
Also i agree with your empathy sentence. I find it difficult to emotionally feel empathy. However i attempt to do it logically instead. For instance i attempt to see what i would do in that situation, and how i would feel, if i would feel anything. Also i have consciously created "rules" which i feel humans should have the opportunity to live their lifes like ie no murder, no bullying etc, and if someone is negatively affected by it then i think it is wrong.
So i dont feel emotionally connected to that person in that way, but i feel ive at least attempted to at least partly compensate it through logic and conscious thought instead.
01 Nov 2010, 8:16 pm
