Another issue I found I have.

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I "egg people on." Beth mention it's harassing etc.! !! ! I do it myself to my little sisters for example the 8 year old said I'm hungry. Me: Come on are you really that hungry is that all we're going to hear about for 30min now? Her: But my stomach is growling. (whines) (She's 8 and is a whiner) Dad snapped at me stop egging her on! He also said this earlier about something so twice today I got told stop "egging her on" I tend to do this alot to them. It PISSES me off that he makes a remark so both times I said screw it I'm leaving (to myself) and left the store/them and went elsewhere. So does anyone do this? Beth mentions Aspies get this towards them so as an Aspie I feel bad in a way I'm the one "bullieing" I'm not trying to be IMO I find it funny which is probably wrong.

I didn't know this had to do with a situation you were in. I don't see how that was egging. I guess he has his own definition of egging. Maybe it's his word for sarcasm.

As the comments were designed to goad a response from your sister, your father would be technically correct in his wording. Based on the words you chose, if I were in your sister's position I would take your comments as mocking and not humorous.


M.

thanks. That makes since.

Got me thinking, trying to analyze the situation by building different scenarios... if I am the father in this situation, hearing continued complaining would agitate me and having someone contribute to that would not make me any happier. If I am the little sister, I am feeling a little mocked because I have expressed myself and someone is questioning the validity of it and asking whether I am going to continue on about it for another 30 minutes. And if I am in the position of the elder sibling, I may have had prior problems with the sibling that led to the comment in the first place and felt attacked by my dad who didn't have the same 'experience set'. But the problem is - these are all just what I would do in that position, and have nothing to do with the reality of what they may have been thinking. There are times I am thankful that I am naturally quiet, in that if I were to speak more then I would often incite such a response in others, but you're not wrong in feeling as though he reacted strongly, just as he isn't necessarily wrong for having a strong reaction.


M.

My son does this to his brother and sister all the time. I don't think he means it nastily and says it's funny but neither of them find it funny and I get really irritated by it especially as my daughter is a whiner too. It always seems taht he is just trying to irritate her so she will react

So egging is also another word for provoking?

So if someone is feeling down and is upset, talking down to them or making fun of them would be egging them because it makes the situation worse for them and they feel worse. Same as if they were just getting over something and then making fun of them would be egging them because it brings back the feelings. Yeah I had that experiance at the other board.

Equating egging on to provoking would be a fair synonym for the most part, although egging on tends to connote a sense of intent or deliberate behavior whereas one might accidentally provoke another person. But being egged on doesn't correlate to the original premise being valid, either. In ZP's situation, that she was egged on doesn't change the fact that the little sister may also have been whining, or just creating a problem out of nothing, as being valid either. While they're part of the same situation, they aren't dependent on each other or provide any sort of proof to the other person's argument.


M.