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21 Feb 2010, 11:58 am

Does anyone have any suggestions how how to do this? Typically my special interests are psychology or some sort of science, but every so often, more often than I would like, my special interest is a person, usually a friend. I want to get inside their consciousness and swim around in it and scrap their bones of every piece of them until I know every little thing. This also typically involves "crushy" feelings towards the person, and more often than not, it is not reciprocated.

So, I spend all of the time I possibly can hanging out with this person, not getting any schoolwork done, and just growing more and more frustrated because the feelings aren't reciprocated. I feel like that's gotta be kinda creepy for the other person as well. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make this stop? I need to do homework instead of pining over someone I can't have!

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21 Feb 2010, 12:48 pm

I don't know if there's a way to stop an aspie interest. The good thing is that you will eventually move on to something else, hopefully.


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21 Feb 2010, 3:14 pm

I was able to halt my special interest in the late 70s, that wasn't working for me, anymore and I was able to go on to better things, just by doing that. I didn't make a very convincing punker, anyways. I made a lousy punker. :lol:


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21 Feb 2010, 8:22 pm

heliocopters wrote:
Does anyone have any suggestions how how to do this? Typically my special interests are psychology or some sort of science, but every so often, more often than I would like, my special interest is a person, usually a friend. I want to get inside their consciousness and swim around in it and scrap their bones of every piece of them until I know every little thing. This also typically involves "crushy" feelings towards the person, and more often than not, it is not reciprocated.

So, I spend all of the time I possibly can hanging out with this person, not getting any schoolwork done, and just growing more and more frustrated because the feelings aren't reciprocated. I feel like that's gotta be kinda creepy for the other person as well. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make this stop? I need to do homework instead of pining over someone I can't have!

Thanks!

I just try and blank it out, just don;t look, look at the table whatever talk to somone who u know and is a long time friend or just a guy u occasionally walk back with(university is full of those kind of kids); when i look back at all the times i thought i was going get a girlfriend i feel pissed, mind u most of my mates are crap like that or at least don;t tell me so yeh i feel like i have a safety net- in that we;re all well u know....



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21 Feb 2010, 9:29 pm

Why do you want to halt it? Is someone harassing you to? If so tell that person if they cannout accept your special intrests, you will not accept them.


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22 Feb 2010, 12:38 am

Stopping in full flow - not easy, though I do dhift from one track to another. Things will peter out and resume after days or years.

But I can hold back for adequate cause. There is a person or importance to me such that I really WANT to obtain certain data. But there is no way to obtain said data without harming the person in question - so I don't act. Though I have been plotting routes - persuade A to go to B and ask this about C, such that A is not known to be connected with me or with B.

But it would have to be foolproof.