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I feel "emotionally detached!" 2 incidents happened today that shocked my family and an issue at work put my older sister in tears!! ! Let me explain. 1st) The 10 year old saw a stranger at school that said come here. She ran back into the class (she was going to the bathroom) BUT she never told the teacher. She told mom who then took her to the principal to tell her THEN the local police to give them a description. This story is all I heard all afternoon OMG what IF could of happen but IMO it didn't end of story! They made a big deal out of it!! ! (sure it is but she did the right thing end of story IMO)

2nd My older sister who works with criminals interviewing them dealt with a guy who threw a 2yr. old against a wall cracking the skull etc. this brought my sister to tears (Since she has a 2yr. old son) I fealt bad for her and hugged her and tried to console her. She mention she has dealt with worse criminals but the whole age thing etc. got to her. I know tv is fake but I hear the age old story of that hitting "close to home" (Perhaps that wrecked vehicle is the same as your family member has or that psycho who threw the 2yr. old against the wall (she resignated and fealt emotional for the child since she had a 2yr. old herself) but while I wouldn't say I fealt nothing I didn't feel as OMG upset over these 2 incidents as the rest of the family did. Am I odd? Thanks fellow Aspies.

Perhaps you are not 'detached' but simply overloaded with emotional stimuli; your post sounds confused and disorganized strongly suggesting that your neuronal circuits have 'switched off' in response to a massive influx of stimuli.

I agree, there is so much tragedy everybody shuts down to a certain extent. Society is in shock.

I remember that when someone's daughter was in a car accident and could have died I just couldn't say anything. I was in so much shock, and I didn't even know the daughter, so I felt like I wasn't sympathetic enough.

Whatever it is, the same thing is wrong with me.

"What's wrong with me?"

Nothing. I do the same thing. I wouldn't get sad in that situation because I would have done everything I possibly could (comforting her), and I realize I have two choices: being sad and not changing anything, or putting it aside and not changing anything.

Even the Haiti earthquake didn't make me sad. Yes, I cared, and I donated, but I didn't dwell on it at all. I just don't do that.

I get sad at an emotional part of a movie, even a sad commercial but I cannot comfort someone. The words just don't come. And if they did it would be forced and it would sound like I didn't mean it.

There are different responses. I know some people just shut it all out. I tend to shut down and go rational. Some cry, some scream.

I am in the capital city of K late at night, walking home with H. Three types step out of the bushes, attack. I am fighting back, they run off, I have three cuts on my head bleeding down on me. We walk to find help. I am silent, shut down, focussed on walking and reaching the hospital. H is yelling and cursing. So - to survive I need to slow emotion down, deal with it gradually like sipping hot tea. To survive H needs to turn the emotion on full blast like Niagara Falls.

I will tell you this - I was not uninvolved. I still feel that night.

Odds are, if you look the family is not uniform. In my family, C would be falling down emotive, I [that's me, not the letter] would be calmly concerned, calling police if appropriate and going rational, B would be getting in the car and driving away with a blank look on his face, R would be rushing to do something. No two alike.

You sound like me. Except I'm erratic with my 'detachment' problem; sometimes I react appropriately and sometimes I don't. If I hear of an AS kid being bullied I want to go smack said bully upside the head, yet when my niece said she was 'upset' because she lost me in a crowded area I just reacted like I was about to vomit, I thought 'Vlech. Get your horrid icky emotions away from me'.

I do not get sad when I see a 'tragedy' happening on television.
If it does not happen to me directly, I could not care much less.
It does irritate me when that sort of thing causes some hysteria amongst people.
I think that they are being stupid and should get a hold of their emotions.
I could write a page about how that frustrates me but I will not.
The first story I do not get and the second is odd.
When a normal person does not go outside because the person is scared of the people that might harm them, it is irrational because people you know are most likely to harm you and when a normal person isolated themselves, eventually they go crazy and perhaps harm someone.
So it is better to keep everything from everybody.

I actually feel the opposite, I am more trusting of the outside world than of my family.

Hello Zeldapsychology. I'm 67 years old. Allow me to share some conclusions.

Nothing and no one in this world is emotionally detached because everything is one...you. You create two, three...me. Reality defined as thought, energy, experience, matter and objects are willfully created by your sentient consciousness. Time. distance. motion, change and choice are created illusion. Light and the universe originate from you. You are much greater than the outline of your body.

I present these ideas to you not for you to believe or disbelieve but for you to accept or not accept as alternative perceptions or realities.

If you opt for non-acceptance Zeldapsychology your denial will illustrate how constrained, restricted and bound you are to the way you currently look at yourself and your surroundings. And you suffer. Peace be unto you.