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14 Mar 2010, 5:52 pm

Obviously that's a simple topic question. :-) My dad while in the store saw my flapping and said STOP! Get away from me if you are going to do that you look ret*d!! I was like oh and put my hands in my pockets and fidgetted with my fingers around in my pocket. I fidget with my fingers ALOT! So does anyone else NOT like your hand flapping? :-(



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14 Mar 2010, 5:54 pm

No.

Punch your dad for thinking such.



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14 Mar 2010, 5:55 pm

Many non hand-flapping people look ret*d to me...



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14 Mar 2010, 6:04 pm

It does look odd. And I say that as someone who used to flap their hands a lot, when I was excited.

I've managed to tone it down now, to the same sort of gestures that NTs use. So I'll rub or 'wring' my hands rather than flapping them. Will still tap my feet when I'm concentrating, and scratch my head when I'm stressed, but these things are more acceptable and go largely unnnoticed. BTW I'm 34 years old.

It takes a lot of determination and practice to look 'normal'. Whether you want to do that is, of course, another debate entirely.


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14 Mar 2010, 6:10 pm

I've wringed my hands my entire life, but I've never really flapped them. I don't care what people think of my hand wringing. I'm going to do it, anyways.


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14 Mar 2010, 6:18 pm

This kind of depends on what your question is. Does hand flapping make you stand out (I find "ret*d" used in that context to be almost obscene)? Yes, it does. Should you care? Well, depending on how much control you have over it, probably not. Why does it matter what other people think?



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14 Mar 2010, 6:21 pm

SuperTrouper wrote:
This kind of depends on what your question is. Does hand flapping make you stand out (I find "ret*d" used in that context to be almost obscene)? Yes, it does. Should you care? Well, depending on how much control you have over it, probably not. Why does it matter what other people think?


I agree with the term ret*d I was just quoting my dad that's all. :-) I'm not sure if I care or not. :-) Thanks.



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14 Mar 2010, 6:25 pm

Who cares if it does? Looking, or even being ret*d doesn't make a person any less of a person.


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14 Mar 2010, 6:52 pm

Unfortunately, to the majority of people out there, yes it does.



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14 Mar 2010, 6:55 pm

I didnt think I did any hand flapping but I guess I do that and a whole lot of other strange things. When I asked my mother if I do a lot of hand flapping and odd movements she empahtically said yes. I have not had a lot of negative attention from it, as I have been undiagnosed for 37 years! So I dont think it looks "ret*d"- that is a mean thing for him to say.Of course, I didnt hear his tone

You know, when I was a kid I did a lot of pacing and spinning and my mom would often make me stop in public and told me that people would think I was "ret*d" but it wasn't to be cruel.



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14 Mar 2010, 7:02 pm

ret*d, ret*d.
Socially, yes, kind of.
Mentally, no.
I think.
No.



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14 Mar 2010, 7:03 pm

I just think it really stands out to other people. It just depends on if you care what others think.



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14 Mar 2010, 7:17 pm

Yes, it does, that's why I don't do it around others.


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14 Mar 2010, 7:40 pm

Hand flapping is about the only thing I haven't done. I've always been more of a scratcher/picker/hair twiddler. I've found that I like to have something in my pocket to fiddle with...coins, a pretty pebble, etc. Some stores sell "worry stones" for your pocket. I've found a worry stone is a big help for me.



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14 Mar 2010, 7:41 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
Who cares if it does? Looking, or even being ret*d doesn't make a person any less of a person.

Really, if I wanna flap my hands I'm gonna do it. It helps me think sometimes and I've already decided not to try to look normal. Not looking "ret*d" isn't even on my list of priorities.


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14 Mar 2010, 8:18 pm

My parents didn't like this either, but I can see why. Basically, practically nobody else does it so it singles you out, thus the people who you may have to work or associate with may make unfair judgments about you. Try to limit how often you flap your hands in public.