Childfree & AS?

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Hi!

I was wondering how many Aspies here are childfree.

I am a 24-year-old male. While originally from Florida, I have lived in Quebec, Canada since June 2005.

Unfortunately, I have never had a girlfriend. If/when I do, I want to get a vasectomy as I have zero desire to have children. In fact, i'd rather be run over by a train than become a father.

I was wondering if other Aspies, male and female alike, felt the same way.

I am sterile, but using unholy voodoo magic, evil demon talismans, and depraved technology(testosterone injections) i shall spawn many children one day(1 preferably, maybe 2).

Part of me would actually love to have a child, but I don't feel that I really am cut out for it-I can hardly even discipline a dog or a cat, let alone my potential son/daughter, I can be a pretty intense worrier, and I'm quite absent-minded and have difficulty multi-tasking. My husband feels the same way, so it's likely that we won't have children, though I have a feeling it will be a decision that I will wrestle with for the next fifteen years or so. Well, anyway, we'll probably be getting a cat and maybe a dog someday-hopefully I won't start dressing them up in clothes and pushing them around in a stroller

I could write a book about what i'm going to do to raise my kids, but unless some girl volunteers to carry the child and raise it with me (i'd prefer she worked while i played mom, but i'd be willing to work concurrently with her or just me) i'm SOL.

I'd like to think that one day I will have kids but I'm not ready for them just yet as I feel I'm too young for them. I'm also missing the fundamental part, the right man to have kids with.

I have a daughter, soon to be 4 years old, she has maybe a PDD-NOS or a ODD, but believe me, I raise her as a princess and I have *absolutly* no regret! A child can bring you a lot of happiness.

I have two, an Aspie son and an NT daughter. I love being a dad but two is quite enough.

I have 2 sons, Dylan who has Moderate Autism (HFA) and is 5 yrs old, and a younger son that is classified at this point as Non-Autistic that will be 3 yrs old in 2 months. Wouldn't trade the experience of being a mother or of parenthood for the world.

I have a daughter, 7.5yo. I absolutely enjoy raising her.

Ahhh. I just LOVE those British accents....

Don’t forget that there is a big possibility that your children will be autistic or an aspie especially if your husband is an aspie. Aspies have plenty to of to offer sociality, but like me many suffer from chronic depression. I cannot fight depression regardless my strength, discipline or determination.

Consider adopting a child instead, there are many children who need a loving home, the other alternative is do marry someone who is the polar opposite of an aspie, A Chav who likes football, hates Star-track and has no intellectual interest at all, but I would not recommend this one.

I want aspie kids....

I don't have any children, but I hope to get married one day and have 2 or 3 of them.

I have one daughter going on 10. Unfortunately, she and her mother moved to another city 7 hours drive away last year so I only see a few times a year and we keep in touch by phone and e-mails. We do enjoy one another's company when we can and do meet up.

She didn't inherit any of my AS tendencies. I dare say she is exceptionally brilliant as well as sociable, and very artistic and psychically endowed. If / when she decides to have children later in life, then the AS genes could come up.

Are you an Aspie thinking of having children? Are you up to it? I'll be the first to confess that I really put my parents through a living hell in those early years, but that's from way before Lorna Wing brought AS back into the medical spotlight.

It's a matter of choice, whether you're up to it, and what resources you'll have going for you. The good part is there is now the awareness about AS that wasn't there before.

My daughter didn't turn out to be AS but she did have a very underdeveloped digestive system, very colicky, and took at least twice as long as all other babies to be able to handle solid foods -must have gotten that from me . She slept very little and I've been up 36 hour stretches many times, night-time trips to the hospital emerg, etc, and a SO that didn't have it in her to be able to nurture a little one. During those first 2 years, I considered myself lucky to get any more than 3 hours of sleep any given night. I raised her mostly singlehandedly during those first 5 years while holding jobs at the same time.

I limited myself to one. In a more ideal setting I'd probably have had another.

That's just my experience. Prospective Aspie parents, you be the judges, you decide.

I'm childfree.

Man hands on misery to man, it deepens like a coastal shelf.

Oh... One more thing:

Are you all familiar with The Who's late drummer Keith Moon? He had quite a way with decorating his hotel rooms, didn't he?

Are you up to coming to your AS child's bedroom looking like that after s/he's had a melt down?


I plead guilty at that tender young age