Asking personal questions

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Does anyone here have issues with this?


I tend to ask personal questions and not even know it. I don't even know what they are except for the ones I have been told that are personal such as "Do you have sex?" "When did you get your period?" "What's your address?" "What is your bank account number?" "What is your social security number?" "Are you still a virgin?"

I don't even know I am asking personal questions until someone tells me I am. But then I don't know what I am asking that is personal.

I don't have a problem asking personal questions, but I am very private and feel that others ask them of me all the time. I find most questions invasive unless they're obviously impersonal.

Looking at your list of questions I was thinking that questions about things people do in private or alone definitely fall into that category. That includes anything without clothing (sex, things one does in the restroom, etc.), or doesn't openly talk about first, such as account numbers, salary, etc. I was taught that you generally don't bring up politics and religion because people feel so strongly about them and discussions can get heated very quickly when you talk about them. I also feel that except with very few people, that sexual habits are also inappropriate to talk about.

Sometimes at work the whole clucking lot of them will start talking about sex which I find very off putting. So I suppose it depends on who you're with. If they bring it up first, maybe the topic is acceptable, but if the person you're talking to seems to get quiet or fidgety, maybe change the subject. Following someone else's lead in conversation may help.

Asking someone for their social security number or their bank account number would put me on the defensive. Why would you possibly need to know that? Everyone is paranoid about identity theft these days.

Sorry, it sounded like you said you did from your post. I misread.

I don't ask personal questions, but I feel that a lot of ignorant people ask me personal questions.

I'm the opposite. I hate asking personal questions and it's part of my job! Swap brains..?

Do you realise that what you've asked is too personal immediately after you say it? In that case, I think you should be ok if you just go 'oops, sorry that was a bit nosey' or something like that. Most people are flattered when others are interested in them and will appreciate that at least you haven't pressurised them into answering.

I just asked a personal question?

See I don't even know I have asked one.

And someone accuses me of manipulating her because I was asking her "100 personal questions." But she was loony so why let her get to me you know?

have u seen net etiket? it states u shouldn share your address,bank info, or any other related to prevent frauds its only healty

I was pretty terrible with personal questions when I was a kid, but then I realized that most people don't like to have their brain picked on that sort of stuff. I'll still do it sometimes when I'm only half-paying attention to the words coming out of my mouth. In all honesty, though, I stopped asking people questions about themselves completely for a period of time--but then I realized you can't really hold a conversation with someone without asking some personal questions. I don't know. NTs are so freaking weird.

I am very embarrassed to ask personal questions, but I do have a habit of saying innapropriate things, usually naughty jokes I've seen on South Park, that sort of thing. Actually, my Tourettes causes me the most bother with personal questions because IT asks people really rude things and it makes me cringe...

Current favourite (not mine): do you like ****s/******s?

If you don't know what it means, don't ask...

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wheever something had to be said in and around my faimly they would get me to say it.
I never understood what was wrong with asking something that needed to be said or telling someone what they were doing was wrong, afterwards I felt weird because everyone thought I was out of place.
like in school ,atfer show and tell,I would end with -any questions-and the whole class would laugh,every time and to this day I have no idea why?

i used to do it more when i was younger but now i have learned to just keep my mouth shut when i am with people i don't know well. i still have to bite my tongue sometimes but for politeness sake, i think it's best not to ask too many questions and embarrass other people.

I don't like it when people ask me personal questions, so I refrain from doing it.

I used to be pretty bad about this up until I was in my early twenties. Now, if I think something (often as I am in the process of saying it) might be a bit personal, I append the phrase, "... if you don't mind me asking" to it, so as to seem sensitive and give the person a way out.