Do people tell you you expect everyone to be like you?

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I get this a lot from my husband. He is always telling me I expect everyone to be like me and he isn't me. Even my mom used to say "They're not you."

I do not expect everyone to be like me or else I be expecting everyone to watch A League of their Own everyday or everyone having the same favorite food as me and having the same likes and dislikes. I don't know why my husband gets this impression of me. He always laughs when I tell him things and he goes "You expect everyone to be you."

I get told the opposite thing. I get told, "You sure do have a mind of your own, don't you?" Both of my parents used to say that to me, when I was younger. Now I get that, from an acquaintance that I used to call a friend.

I am constantly surprised when people don't think the same way I do.

No, I have never been told that either. Like CR, I have been told by lots of family and friends that I definitely have a mind of my own. I do understand what that would mean to expected others to be like me. And I did at one time. But I gave up on thinking like that somewhere between kindergarten and first grade when I realised I was different from most other children.

Taupey

same here, I expect everyone to think like I do, and I'm confused when they don't because it's obviously the most logical way to think... (not being arrogant, just mostly the situations prompt this response from me).

Me too. I am surprised how stupid people can get and my husband just laughs and goes "They're not you" and tells me they're not stupid. Sometimes he says "That's you." Sometimes he says it's my AS.

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When you call people stupid for having a different opinion, then yes, I would say you do expect everyone to be like you, especially when those differences surprise you.


M.

Me too. I did have a problem with understanding peoples point of views when I was younger.
I know people aren't like me but at times it's hard to understand how different they really are.

I was giving my mum directions (and she's pretty bad at it too, pretty anxious about it) and I thought it was easy. I did get one bit wrong but it wasn't enough for us to get lost. She was yelling at me even though I knew the city well. "It's in the North so you travel North' I kept saying and I kept yelling back and pointing at where the building was that we were looking for and geez she was overreacting. I only got one bit wrong and when she told me to look slightly at another way of getting there I got confused. We didn't get lost at all.
Next time we go back to that place she can look up the bloody directions herself.

So sometimes I'm surprised at how I think differently than people. I know I should expect it but I don't always.
People always seem to interpret what I say in the wrong way too.

Last edited by pensieve on 21 Apr 2010, 9:07 pm, edited 1 time in total.

It's not about a different opinion. It's about what people think. here is an example.


My husband's work was doing a dinner party at a restaurant. Everyone was allowed to bring their families but they had to pay, the employees didn't have to pay because work be buying their food. They were going to buy my food because I was considered an employee for them even though I hadn't started working yet. But I had went to their company and did classes and did training, this is for people with disabilities. But my husband told me to not tell anyone I was free and I asked him why. He said they don't want any conflicts with their employees and I told him but I'm an employee so they would know it's fair and not argue. But my husband said not everyone is like me and I told him why would they be that stupid. I'm part of their company, everyone who works for them their food is being paid for, so therefore they should understand why they be buying my food too. But he just laughed and said it was my AS.

I was just amazed how dumb people be so to avoid any conflicts, I was not to say anything about my meals being free. My husband said they didn't want to take chances and they never know what people would think. I would expect everyone to understand why my meals be free and they go "oh okay" after being told why.

Being considered an employee and an actual employee are too different things. They're full time employees and you're a trainee. And because all outsiders had to buy their own meal they might have complained if someone that wasn't a full time employee got a free meal.
And your husband works there, yes? So it's like you're family. Families have to buy their own meal, even though you're a trainee but the people that had to pay wouldn't know that. Also, people pry a lot and complain a lot, especially if someone is getting something free that they have to pay for.
Just my two cents. Who knows? I could be wrong.

Also, stupid is such a broad term and often an insult. You might want to re-think calling people that if you don't understand them.

That makes sense. I wish my husband explained that to me but he didn't even know the answer either. He just kept going "I don't know hun" and not tell me why people would not understand and keep complaining. My reaction was, just tell them why my meals are free and they go "oh okay" and move on. Then he said they're not me.

I've never had anyone directly tell me that. Have you told your husband that it bothers you when he says something like that? I know it would get to me after awhile, especially with it being someone I love. It's just the way our brains work, he shouldn't be like "Oh, you're silly. You and your AS."