Charm school/manners classes for people with AS

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Does such a thing exist? The entire notion of us needing to develop appropriate manners has always disturbed me but I've decided to start learning how to live in an NT world. I've never been able to keep up with any charm school type class but I was wondering if there was a special ed sort of charm school for people like us to learn how to adapt.

There is a thing called 'Finishing school' (probably the same as charm school). My mum used to threaten to send me to one. My boyfriend reckons working as a waitress would do just as good a job (tips are a great incentive to be charming).

You might try searching for classes in "business etiquette"--it teaches what grownups need to know, rather than the archaic "charm school" stuff that is (was?) aimed at teenage girls.

This makes me think of Charm and Beauty School for AAGPBL girls to learn how to be ladies during the 1940's. I wonder if they attended through out the seasons or only that one year?

I'm just looking for a special needs type class that's geared toward people with AS.

Something that covers manners, etiquette, elegance, etc. Not being able to understand these things has left a very bad mark on my life. So I want to learn how to "pretend" you know? It's a really difficult learning curve but I'm sure if I was taught NT manners and etiquette by someone who knew how the AS mind works I would benefit. Or even someone with AS who learned how to display NT manners and etiquette.

Even if it takes me 2 hours to learn something it would take someone else 2 minutes to learn I would still like to learn.

I am thinking you could read some etiquette books if nothing else. I learned alot when I got into twelve step programs just from interacting with people so much and this helped me more than anything else. I did it so much it became natural to talk without really saying anything (like, 'hi, how are you'/fine, you?, etc). That was the concept I could not get a grasp on...you aren't supposed to really have meaning when you speak to people in those situations.

There was a certain amount of "charm school" in the Jobsteps programme I did to improve my employability, but unfortunately its catchment area is very limited. I don't know of any other autism-specific etiquette classes.

This could be a serious money-spinner for someone - the nearest NT equivalent is butlery classes and the Ivor Spencer school makes an absolute fortune from people wanting to take classes in the subject.

Sounds horrible. It's changing our behaviour for our stupid society. I'll stick to being myself thanks.

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