Family not Aspie but do you see some traits in them?

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Do you see some Aspie traits in your family? I was talking to mom the other day and she mention she analyzes everything such as peoples reactions etc. which I do as well (I've read here on WP alot of people on the spectrum are analyzers) My 8 year old sister like myself has no common sense sometimes also while I'm not sure I'd call the 8 year olds or 10 years olds issues meltdowns the 10 year old gets into heated arguments I didn't lie! NO I DIDN'T! etc. and the 8 year old (which I think is normal) whines when she doesn't get her way and at times just wants to stay home and not go anywhere. The 8 year old also loves coming home from school and puts on her bathing suit (for awhile it was her gymnastics outfit although she only went there once) (Not sure if wearing one set of clothes/outfit is a trait but I saw on a show the kid with Asperger's just wanted to wear his pirate outfit all the time) but it was just a show (Parenthood for those wondering) These are just some of the quirks etc. I've seen in my family.

My brother seems to talk in an annoying manner. This is not just when I talk to him, it also happens when he talks to other people in my family. He sometimes doesn't seem to know what are good manners and what is rude.

My dad sometimes gets quiet when he and my mom are hanging out with other people their age.

Definitely. My dad is antisocial, good at investment and fantastic rote for history. Insensitive to feelings at times.
My great-uncle was a brilliant student and doctor who often lost his temper. He spoke too fast that his students didn't understand him. He frowned and it was hard to get to know him, but he was a good person. Got stressed out easily and died young. He was very obsessed with thrift and left his family quite a bit of money even though he earned well.
My 2nd cousin is 10 years old and a bookworm. Instead of playing around he has read most of the stuff his age group reads and I heard he likes knowledgable stuff. At that age I was playing around and reading Enid Blyton. Btw this cousin is the grandson of the said great-uncle.

My Mum has OCD and she doesn't like people. She finds them illogical, shallow. After meeting she is exhausted. But she's NT, because she can read body language, knows what people want and what to say. She has poor spatial thinking and sometimes takes offence. Just an intelligent NT.

My cousin is dyslexic (cured), lisping and he prefers loneliness. But he likes parties too and has great diplomatic skills. He's poor at Math and spatial thinking, but he draws and writes really good. I think he's an introvertic NT.

Mom has OCD, Dad has a monotonous voice, and brother has autism. I also have an autistic cousin, and a psychotic grandmother (she's on her fourth husband.... I think).

Yup, my mum is obsessively clean and orderly, and though she jokingly makes fun of me making sure everything is parallel and lined up, she does the same.

My dad has a weird way of communicating, and scored quite high on the AQ test.

EDIT: Also, my mum has very good senses, I'm sure her hearing, vision, and smell is above avarage, she can notice things even I can't, often smells things no one else does, and yesterday she heard me whispering in the next room while the TV was on.

Yeah on my mum's side of the family. Also my brother, he's half way between normal and spectrumy I'd say.
My granddad could easily get a diagnosis in like 2 seconds, he's probably a moderate aspie (but hasn't heard of AS before so I HIGHLY doubt that would ever happen and it would be pointless at 67 wouldn't it).

My little brother was stubborn and wanted things done a certain way but he was able to snap out of that phase. He also has sensitive taste and smell so he used to be a picky eater and my mom put a stop to it when he was eight. He doesn't complain about smells anymore like he used to. He also had difficulty with transition to change. I don't know if he still does.

My dad lacks empathy so he will act cold hearted. He also has poor social skills so he says inappropriate things and he has a temper. Occasionally he would throw things and start slamming things and he has hit me when I make him really mad. He is also obsessed with sports and doesn't seem to understand why I am not into them. He will also start talking about it. He also paces and taps his foot but he also has ADHD.

My mom loves home and gardening. She is always watching those kind of shows on TV. She watches other things too but it's mostly that stuff. She has also taken me seriously when I be joking. She been real sensitive to noise like claiming the TV is too loud when it's not. She is also bothered by bright light so fluorescent lights bother her.

My grandma may have had it but she is senile now and has Alzheimer's. My parents think she had it. She was literal, she always liked things to be organized, and doesn't like crowds and had good sense of smell and a great memory. That's all I know about her and have seen in her. They say we're both lot alike except I don't have great sense of smell and I don't mind crowds.

My great uncle, maybe. I can remember him telling me women are lot of work and relationships so that's why he never married. Plus he liked taking things apart and he liked being alone. He always left right after family meals.

My uncle liked taking things apart and he has a bad temper and he doesn't do good with people. He prefers to be alone and hasn't had a relationship in over 20 years.

My aunt claims her husband (my other uncle) has good sense of smell.

I hear my cousin doesn't do good with her peers and she prefers older people so she gets along well with elderlies she works with. She is also shy. Mom says we're both lot alike.

I can remember my mom mentioned her sister may have it. From what I have my mom say about her, she didn't get along with her peers and had difficulty fitting in and had problems in school. She is also not a people person.

Just the traits and nothing more. And just two relatives (both of whom are already dead) I can think of, regardless of how much time I'm spending, racking my brains in a futile attempt to track down in my family any more potential sham aspies:

1. My grandfather - he didn't speak almost at all until there was some important thing to communicate to the family (but it was mostly because he didn't pronounce "r" which was VERY shameful to him - for those 12 years of my life I knew him before he ended his days I heard him only 3 times (sic!) say a word containing "r", as strange and unbelievable as it may seem to you but it is true and to a great extent it was this thing and to a lesser extent AS traits that contributed to the fact that he opened his mouth so rarely). He was extremely stubborn as well. In fact grandpa Józef was one of barely 3 people in my life about whom I could say they had no personality. He died in 1996, of pneumonia.

2. Uncle Stanisław, mom's oldest brother. He died in 1992 - my first encounter with death but what's strange, I didn't feel bad because of his death - well, there was uncle - and now, there's no uncle any more - that was how I perceived this experience. People come and people go. He was realy very highly intelligent but this is the only thing about him which was AS-like - apart from this, he was a normal, sociable guy.

I already wrote about them in the past. That's all.

My mum seems to be very introverted, and she keeps to herself, a lot of the time.

There are a lot of traits on both sides of my family, though more on my dad's side than my mother's. My dad and cousin are both classic male Aspies, though neither are diagnosed.

Yes! Traits are all over my family.

My mom has little common sense. She loves research. She can not work for someone else. Forgets really important things, and can not hold onto a romantic relationship (married and divorced 5 times). She also has very few friends. I have always considered her to be very narcissistic but now that I know about AS, that may be more of the issue.

My brother, I don't know. He seems odd to me, but that could mean he is completely NT mostly I noticed repetitive actions and massive collections as a youngster and difficulty with healthy relationships as an adult. He ends up either alone and confused as to why (because he is honest and faithful) or with a girl who is nuts (BPD, Sociopath, etc) He is most certainly clinically depressed.

My father is just a bad person. Growing up he lied to us over and over and over. About everything. He was/is also a chronic cheater, a girlfriend in every city kind of guy. His career and drive would match AS, but the lying and cheating is sociopathic. I would say he is a master manipulator.

My grandparents, if I had to label, would be AS & sociopath and BPD & sociopath. Bad relationships, personality disorders, and AS all over the place in my family. I had no idea until this last year that there was even anything "wrong" with any of us!! Sad right? I ended up marrying a very disordered man myself, and my divorce from him was what enlightened me to all of this labeling.

My mother has similar tendencies towards executive dysfunction. I don't see much else, in the way of autism, but she's a big-time scatter-brain.

One of my sisters may be on the spectrum, my mother is almost certainly an Aspie, as was my great grandfather.

My son has Aspergers. He has high IQ, didn't talk when he was young so he was tested. He had a speech pathologist who worked with him for a very long time. He always hated to be held. He has excellent memory, loves history esp. military history. He's quiet and has always preferred to spend time alone. He's not into fads or fashion, he looks almost just like Matt Damon except he has dark brown hair and blue eyes. He's funny about seams in his socks especially. OMG he would get pissed if it wasn't right in his shoes. He loves video games, cartoons and documentaries. He paces and use to flap, loves to rock. He's into robots. He's in the Marines now.

I swear my dad has AS. My mum has ALWAYS encouraged me to be myself and not care what others said or thought. She never tried to take my special intrests away and knew I would be somebody some day becuase of them. Only a saint or someone with traits of autism themselves would say those things.