Do you go deep and personal?

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When talking to people I tend to lay it out there. For example a cousin just now on chat said when will I make babies I said I couldn't since it'd kill me (AKA the sex) and that I have no women anatomy and then thought perhaps that was too personal. I always tend to pour my soul out and get deep and personal. Do you? (obviously what I posted here is deep and personal and that's to a bunch of strangers on a messageboard) I have a problem!! !!

That's always been serious problem for me. It's like there's no filter to tell me what's appropriate to say about myself and what isn't. I think I've gotten better about it though. At least I hope I have...

How close are you to that cousin?
If you're not close, then they asked a pretty nosy, personal question... and kinda classed you as a broodmare to boot... like having babies is your only use, function, purpose in life.

And they'll probably spread your answer all over the family, and everyone else they know.
So probably not the best choice.

If you're close to this person, then it's an honest answer and can promote a better understanding of each other, hence more closeness. If you don't want your answer spread all over kingdom come, then you'd better tell them the info is private and you don't want anyone else to know.

That's how I judge whether or not I give a particular answer... how well do I know this person, how well do I WANT to know them, and do I want this bit of personal info spread around, because in my experience there are very few people who can keep their damn mouths shut.

Cool. It's nice to have someone you can talk about those kinds of things with, and trust that they'll be discreet.

So does she have kids and is she planning on having more? (the obvious reciprocal response)

I don't tell anyone anything.

People usually have to drag answers out of me if they are overly personal ones. I am also paranoid and will not reveal much about myself in a face-to-face conversation.

Zelda, it was probably OK with your cousin since you guys were having a personal conversation on the chat. I have met total strangers who will just tell all kinds of things standing in line, and they don't know me from Eve. I find it uncomfortable, to say the least. I am talking about people telling their jail-able offenses and itchy private parts- all that. c'mon!

But then, there are folks who will walk up and tell a sob story to panhandle money. I had a guy come up to me in the Post Office telling me about his mother just getting out of ICU with congestive heart failure. "Aint God great!" he exclaimed. I had just lost my uncle that week. I told him I was happy to hear it because my uncle didn't make it. But then he wanted money to get a sandwich. He probably didn't have a mother in ICU and could care less about my uncle dying- didn't even offer condolences when I didn't have a dollar for him. So I avoid strangers with TMI- they are usually up to something.

Yes, I go more personal and give too much information. People ask "How are you doing?", and expect anything but the truth. I normally give the truth. Typically they are shocked speechless and I wonder why they asked if they did not want to know.

I find myself getting that way, from time, to time. I just say what's on my mind, and be done with it.

BTW Donkeybuster she doesn't know I have AS. My older sister is who found the disorder and she told her friend (Something I was shocked she did) back on our vacation in NY "Oh we think Brandy has AS" (I was shocked)

I think that this has to do with Aspiness and verbosity. I am very guilty of this as well. Instead of a sonopsis, I bear everything out. I am fighting this in how to respond to a friend that I was close to during my elementary/middle school years, but have been kind of hot and cold with, and haven't talked to in a number of years.

I have been in many conversations with NTs over the years. As an example, a person may say that they went to Europe. The other party in the conversation may ask what cities that they went to or if they saw any museums. NTs converse only with enough information to get the other person interested and to start a conversation.

I used to when I was younger, but life experience has made me guarded and private in most settings. Besides, information, espeically personal information, is powerful stuff. I gather it, but I give very little away.