Ilka wrote:
Do you know how long ago was the person diagnosed? Maybe the person was diagnosed long ago and was on therapy/meds and that helped.
My daughter was diagnosed three years ago and has been in therapy since then. Last month we took her to "Leaders of the future" for evaluation, and the psychologist was doubting her diagnosis was correct. She even asked us "why we thought" our kid had AS and "who" diagnosed her. When we gave her the name of the neurologist she said "Oh, well, if she diagnosed her she cannot be wrong. She is one of the bests". The thing is my daughter looks and behaves pretty "normal" after 3 years of work, but she was not like that when she was just disgnosed. Her diagnosis and therapy helped her overcome a lot of difficulties she had. Even her teachers at school think she does not have anything (that we are overreacting). I wonder if they would think the same if they had met her 5 years ago, when I got notes from her teachers almost every day.
I think there is definitely a therapeutic and learning advantage to those who are diagnosed younger over those who had to battle it out alone for decades, without even any knowledge as to what was causing their problems.
I am probably externally the least AS appearing person I know of. Even psychiatrists I have seen this year (for other issues) say they would never think I was AS. The truth of it is I have had two decades of intensive social training - firstly from my parents, and secondly self-directed.
My parents knew there was something different about me since I was 4 years old, also partly because of the extreme motor and coordination problems (they actually took me to see the top specialists at the children's hospital, who diagnosed me with a number of muscle and coordination deficits eg. "weak muscle tone all over the body" but said I would probably grow out of a lot of it eventually). Since then, it was immediately apparent that socially things weren't right. I was bullied from the word go - starting at kindergarten, and continuing on (plus worsening) through primary school. I read obsessively. I didn't use eye contact, I was literal, I didn't understand the concept of lying. When and where I was growing up, Aspergers was almost unheard of. My parents took me to see numerous specialists for years, all the while undertaking to train me themselves (teaching eye contact, correct social manners, etc). They were strict, and I didn't get away with using AS mannerisms. None of the specialists could pinpoint the source of my problems, nearly all of them attempted to teach me techniques to stop the bullying, with zero success (and in some cases the bullying actually increased).
It wasn't until I was 12 years old that a teacher's aid (I think it was) recognized some of my symptoms and lent my parents a book on Asperger's she had read. We instantly knew, after reading it, that this was what I had. None of us had any doubts. I actually "self diagnosed" after reading the entire thing in 3 hours and doing the comprehensive questionnaires myself. My parents took me to see a psychiatrist, who diagnosed me himself, although said I was "mild" (by this stage already many of the years of intensive social training and drilling had started taking effect, my presentation at 12 was very different to my presentation at 6). This was in 2000. After this my social training continued, and became more effective as my parents and myself were able to pinpoint the source of my problems.
The point I'm trying to make here is that today no professional would ever diagnose me with AS (without lots of background info). No person, upon meeting me or being a casual acquaintance (although one such person, who didn't know I was AS, jokingly said to me "you're acting very autistic" - which I found absolutely hilarious, and when I told him I actually WAS "autistic" he was completely distraught and couldn't stop apologizing for a month) would ever pick up that there was anything different about me. In fact, I am often actually very successful socially, and many people would consider me to be oppositional to AS.
None of this erases my past, or means I don't have Asperger's. Kids diagnosed at a young age are sometimes a completely new kettle of fish, plus the amount of intensive and strict social training one receives makes a HUGE difference - look at Temple Grandin.
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