AS & Codependent Disorder?

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Does anyone think that some Aspies could be codependent when they get in relationships I've had a doc tell me that I was codependent years ago & thinking back on things I think it could be related to AS issues. Some Aspies have problems making friends & they could be dependent on the few people they are close to. Aspeies also have obsessive interest & it's possible that that a friend or relationship partner could be the Aspies obsessive interest. Most docs think that codependents should not be in any relationships till the disorder in sorted out but if the codependency is caused by the AS; How can a person with AS make friends & have a relationship & keep the codependent disorder in check Does anyone have any thoughts on this

I don't know, Nick007. What psychologists are currently calling "codependency," my parents called "marriage."

Codependency is just a pop psych idea that has outlived its usefulness. Most people I know who've decided they're codependent, suddenly use that "realization" as an excuse to become incredibly selfish and yet constantly remark upon their "progress".

co-dependency can be a positive thing or a negative thing.....it all depends on each couple

I have a tendancy to get clingy because people are almost never interested me. I think co-dependancy is always a bad thing though, you need to retain your identity in a relationship even while being a unit. I think for a lot of people, but moreso for the socially awkward your first real relationship can lead to thinking one person can fill your every need.

Interdependency is part of any healthy relationship; abuse or reliance on such becomes a negative aspect. For those on the spectrum, expectations must be clearly conveyed to avoid confusion, and the partner can at times be weighed down with explanation. For me, I am fortunate - my wife accepts that after knowing me well for a long time, and knows that there are times I need her guidance and rely on her. But we balance each other out; with each take or need, there is giving back to the other.


M.

I'm clingy as well but only when I'm really close to someone. I kind of think if I found a partner who is also clingy; we could better understand each other & maybe work on our issues together to become more independent ect. None of the docs I've talked to seemed to agree with me thou. When I talked about how I was isolated & wanted friends & a relationship witch is stuff like AS issues; the docs kept telling me to put myself out there & try to meet people & give others a chance ect ect. But when I mentioned how I was worrying about others & being dependent on em; codependency issues; the docs insisted that I should learn to be comfortable by myself, more independent on my own ect. It seemed contradictory to the AS advice they wer giving. One of the rezones I quit seeing docs is cuz they keep contradicting themselves & made no sense. I do NOT process contradictions