Do you want friends?

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It is a poll for those with A.S / A.S.D's only.

yes

I voted maybe, as I actually only have a small desire for friendship. Usually in the past people just kept coming to me then there co-existence just seemed to work. I have no desire for friendship with males in person. Mostly the only type of people interactions I am interested in is with females.

Yet that is proving complicated with my latest attempts and also some females are to highly volitile.

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Yes, I suppose so. I'm not desperate, though.

Had to edit for a spelling error.

I'm not desperate either, I'm fairly picky. Perhaps to picky...

No.

You must understand, that anyone who does not want any, are overstimulated. That can be dealt with, at least some what. Pm if you want more info.

I voted MAYBE.
I have some friends, or should I say, WHEN I have friends, it always seems like too much work to keep up THEIR standards of friendship. I don't like to talk on the phone all the time, or send greeting cards for every silly occasion that comes down the lane. And then there's the "just thinking of you" cards, for no reason at all.
It'd just be nice to have someone to get together with now and then for a drink - even just a cup of tea - and a couple of hours of intelligent conversation.
Ah! That's the ticket! I don't know anyone who can hold an intelligent conversation!! !! !! ! I really don't care what's on TV, who's winning the playoffs, or where the neighbors went on holiday and how much they spent on building a new deck out back.
How about history? literature? quantum theory?

No, I don't want any friends, only sex.

How do you figure that not wanting to have any friends is the result of overstimulation? I may desire one friend, most likely with AS who understands our differences, that I can go out with, talk to or converse by email once in a while, but friends to me are an annoyance overall. I don't see it as due to overstimulation, but rather a need to enjoy being alone and indulging in the interests that mean a lot to me. Relationships hold too many emotional connections that I just don't desire to handle, and most people want to go out every few days or something, play games and stuff, and that I don't desire.

- Ray M -

Trust me on this one. My therapist says I am an expert on AS, and he is a clinical social worker. That means I am very aware and know symptomology of AS.

I do want friends, but it is hard for me to make friends.

I voted for maybe, mostly because when I actually sit down and think about it, I really would like a friend or two. At the same time, though, I only seem to get that desire whenever I am not doing something else, something more interesting. For instance, the last three weeks I have spent reading anything I can get my hands on about the Khmer Rouge. This intensive interest was tangent from a general perusal of dystopian literature, which led me to seek out real fear-based societies. Anyway, before I became absorbed with this subject, I was focused entirely on figuring out how to get and keep friends.

That's all I would do for hours at a time, and I think it had a lot to do with me being bored. I mean, I do want friends, it's just that I a lot of the time it seems that I don't have time for friends because I am so involved in something that no one I know seems to care about. I've actually got a few friends, even if they are just coworkers and all we do is talk in the lunch room for 30 minutes each shift. That seems to fill any superficial need for companionship, and my family fills the rest. The friendship I wonder if I will ever have is the deeper, soulmate kind that my parents have. I find myself wondering if I will ever meld so well with someone...because I haven't exactly fit in with anyone so far.

Yes, but I shall remain extremely selective of who I attempt to be friends with.

Okay, but you gave absolutely no details about why not wanting friends is related to overstimulation. If you were an expert on AS, you should be able to give details.

- Ray M -

yes very very very very very much but i just can't seem to. I started going to the college class with my friend but I can't talk to people, i just sit there. sometimes people talk to me because my friend brings me into the conversation. Everyone is very nice there.