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21 May 2010, 4:23 pm

You are important. So are other people, especially if they are in trouble. You have a tender heart, but you know how to establish and keep personal boundaries. You are empathetic and compassionate, but you also believe that it's best if people solve their own problems and learn to take care of themselves, if they are able.

You are deeply moved by the needs of others, but you know that if you don't take good care of yourself, you'll wind up being of no use to anyone. So yours is a thoughtful compassion. You strive to be fair and sensible, taking care of others while also taking care of yourself.

When someone really is in trouble, you like to collaborate with them toward a solution; they do their part, you do yours. You consider carefully, and respond in a sensible way; they do their part, and together you move through the difficulty.

You seldom act impulsively; rather, when a problem arises, you take your time to think through the situation. This contemplative quality usually means that you'll arrive at a diplomatic solution, one that's fair for the other person and also fair to you. It's frequently a win/win situation.

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That is actually kind of accurate.



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21 May 2010, 4:54 pm

My eharmony result came back as accurate (though how could it not with so many questions, it was pretty much just telling me everything I had just told it). Then it told me that there were no matches for me.


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21 May 2010, 5:12 pm

You need to remove some of the hash marks; they are bucking the format.

I've actually been meaning to try eharmony, but this isn't a good time for me to looking for a relationship. Your description is interesting, and would probably be very similar to mine.


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21 May 2010, 8:33 pm

they rejected me :o(



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21 May 2010, 8:54 pm

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they rejected me :o(


I signed up just to see what kind of people they could possibly match me with (not actually interested) and was rejected as well lol.


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21 May 2010, 11:57 pm

eHarmony rejected me as well & I got an email that told me to log in to get my results. When I logged in to the site; the site told me I had to sign up to see my results but there was no link to sign up because I was rejected. I completely wasted my freaking time :evil: eHarmony is a crock of bull


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21 May 2010, 11:58 pm

i really think that the best ones for us are each other, though even that is hard. t



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22 May 2010, 1:20 am

In my opinion, match is the best for finding other aspies.

Use keyword filters in your search like: loner, awkward, introvert, quirky, fidget, eccentric.

I was surprised how many I found actually....just wish I could finish my damn PhD thesis so that I'd have time to pursue a relationship.



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22 May 2010, 3:17 am

Their assessment of me was totally FALSE except for the reserved part. Everything else was like reading about someone else. & of course, they could find no matches for me lol.


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22 May 2010, 6:45 am

Negolin wrote:
i really think that the best ones for us are each other, though even that is hard. t


I agree but unfortunately the odds here are not good. There seems to be more guys looking & we are spread out all over the place. I've tried lots of other sites out & had NO luck including Match. I got 6 months free because I hadn't found someone in 6 months. I wish they would of gave me a refund after a year


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22 May 2010, 1:12 pm

How can a dating website reject you? 8O That's so strange.



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22 May 2010, 1:34 pm

book_noodles wrote:
How can a dating website reject you? 8O That's so strange.


I'm thinking the same, though eHarmony's TV ads talk about how they're different because they're a "relationship site", which I guess means they only let who they like in. Like Apple's App Store really :lol:



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22 May 2010, 3:21 pm

Asp-Z wrote:
book_noodles wrote:
How can a dating website reject you? 8O That's so strange.


I'm thinking the same, though eHarmony's TV ads talk about how they're different because they're a "relationship site", which I guess means they only let who they like in. Like Apple's App Store really :lol:

Sometimes Apps are rejected because they prematurely release/make redundant features theoretically present in future software updates. So maybe some people who are rejected are just too awesome :lol:



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22 May 2010, 7:27 pm

book_noodles wrote:
Asp-Z wrote:
book_noodles wrote:
How can a dating website reject you? 8O That's so strange.


I'm thinking the same, though y's TV ads talk about how they're different because they're a "relationship site", which I guess means they only let who they like in. Like Apple's App Store really :lol:

Sometimes Apps are rejected because they prematurely release/make redundant features theoretically present in future software updates. So maybe some people who are rejected are just too awesome :lol:


I think that if eHarmony would let everyone in; a lot of the members who wer rejected could be paried up with other people who eHarmony does not have matches for. It sux that you have to conform to some arbitrary standard for them to consider you datable :x


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