How flexible would you say you are?

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Everything I've read about Asperger's makes it look as though Aspies always think they are right and can't help but to correct others when they make mistakes or say something that isn't correct. I know that this is of course true for some people but I find it hard to believe that all Aspies can fit into the same mold. Sure, it's natural to have similarities, but there have to be some variances. I am undiagnosed....I feel I have a lot of Aspie traits and being rigid and uncompromising very well could have described me in my younger years, but I feel I've learned. I think it makes sense that many other Aspies could learn from their behavior as well, at least enough to get along with others.

I also wonder how much being a woman has to do this. Hope I'm not saying anything wrong here...

I too have learned to be less rigid.

Oh...I thought this was going to be about that Will Ferrel SNL 'yoga' skit or something...

No one stays the same forever. As we grow up, we learn to be more flexible. Personally, I've worked very hard to learn to see many sides and possible perspectives to different issues. That said, I have also been accused of being inflexible -- usually by someone with whom I didn't agree who wanted things their own way.

I try to see things from many sides.

I am extremely rigid & inflexible. I do tend to point out others mistakes as well but that's because I'm trying to understand things & I ask a question or say something the wrong way. Others have said that I feel I am never wrong but that's because others do not understand me so I am constantly having to over explain my rezones for things. People assume I'm being augmentative & nit-picky when we do not understand each other.

i'm about as flexible as sheet glass- i bend somewhat then break into shards.

Very flexible! It comes of spending so much time sitting in contorted positions.

More properly, I'm not sure whether I can call myself mentally flexible. My ambition is to hold a "right" picture of the universe in my head, and I think I have that (roughly) done; I know more or less what things we know to exist. Getting a "right" picture of human history and society is ludicrously harder - my suspicion is that many things of that nature, such as political systems and economics, are simply beyond the capacity of the human mind, much as we'd like to think otherwise - and I recognise that I make many mistakes and must constantly reassess what I know, but still, it's not so much complete flexibility as refinement.

On a day to day level, I can deal with small amounts of change, but events I'm not expecting (say, unexpected houseguests, or being approached in conversation) stress me.

On a quirky ideas level, I'm good at thinking of unusual ways to do things, and I tend to pass things through two mental filters - one linguistic, one lyrical - which can lead to odd associations, but is somewhat constraining. Certain circumstances tend to make me mentally run over (or just plain sing) particular lyrics or say particular things (it's under my control, not a compulsion, so I don't usually do it when there's people around) which is a bit rigid.

Flexible in some ways and rigid as hell in others.

Flexible parts of me:
I do sponaneous things sometimes like having a sudden change of fashion/hair just because
I am open minded to try new things like food or a new holiday destination
I am more than willing to do something different and fun on the weekends as well as the usual stuff
I am a rebel and question rules that are given to me instead of following them rigidly
Some types of changes are exciting

Rigid bits:
I correct people and I hate when people are even a bit wrong
Films have to OBIDE TO THE LAWS OF PHYSICS DAMN IT
I'm kind of pedantic and use the proper terms for things (for example meeting friends could come out as "meeting people out of their usual context")
I'm a bit "all or nothing" "this or that"
I'm not a risk taker, I'd rather do things the way I know works, each time
I don't welcome alterations to my plans, if there are fire and brimstone will ensue (my 17th birthday do being postponed was a farce)
I want things to go just so, and that's final
I have certain rules and categories for things, which I won't describe now because they're all complicated and I'll bore you to death
I set really high perfectionist standards for things and if they aren't met frustration usually follows

Let's see. I must follow MONKEY here, and admit there are two sides to this coin in myself.

I am flexible in some ways. I like to question the rules. I like to try new and interesting things, if they don't seem too awfully dangerous (like heroine, and a lot of other serious drugs, and maybe skydiving too, lol). I generally don't mind if my plans are suddenly changed, and in fact prefer to make my plans as a spur-of-the-moment sort of thing. I am always looking for new ways to look at everything.

I am inflexible in some other ways, although this seems to be reducing more and more with time. I often correct people when it doesn't really matter, and I shouldn't care that much. Despite the fact that I look for new ways to look at things, I sometimes disregard other philosophies as foolish without really looking at them much. I don't like leadership roles (and group projects in general, except as planned for fun with friends), but once I am in a leadership role on a project, I get annoyed when it is taken away from me or my ideas are overlooked, and may even refuse to participate if I become frustrated enough about it.

I have my own set views on things that I believe to be right or wrong, etc. but I believe everyone is allowed to have their own opinion, so even if someone doesn't agree with me, I don't tell them they are wrong or expect them to change their views to reflect mine. Honestly, I wish the rest of the world would be that way.

not nearly a simple question for me ..

in terms of behavioral rules, not very. (mine, and what i feel others' should be)

doing spontaneous things? sometimes very flexible.

in terms of dealing with change or a flaw in routine, it depends on what it is. i have packed up and moved across country with less anxiety than i feel when my favorite restaurant is a week late changing their specials menu for the month..

i think it is more a control thing than an actual inflexibility thing. i need rules to understand things.

Not flexible or spontaneous at all. Very rigid and routine-oriented.