Have your ever done or felt like doing this?

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Have you ever felt like taking your anger out on your parents because the are the ones that are responsible for giving you aspergers syndrome?

Wha? How are they responsible?

No, but it's perfectly OK to be angry if you feel they did things which caused it. I'm a little angry that my mother allowed me to be so badly mis-diagnosed at age 7 or 8, as a paranoid schizophrenic, when indeed I was not. However, I also know that she agreed with whatever she was told, because she didn't know any better at the time. So with only my best interest at heart, she made mistakes. I'm angry that mistakes were made, at my expense, but I'm not angry at her intent. which was to help me. On the other hand, if someone might not think about the whole picture, they might hold in the anger and not talk about it, knowing their parents didn't do it on purpose. That's just as bad to do, as it will boil up inside.

The fact is we have Asperger's, and some of us have diabetes, some of us have other disabilities or differences. That can't be undone at this time, but we can come to peace with it, and with those involved. I'd rather be in a situation where I've gotten all of it out, and am able to work together with my family as opposed to trying to work with them or let them try to help me while I'm full of anger that I can't place.

Charles

No, because not only did they have no control over the matter, but I see my Asperger's as a gift anyway, so if anything I'd be thanking them for it.

No. They were both dead before I knew I had Aspergers Syndrome. I sometimes used to feel a bit of resentment that they brought me up rather badly in some ways, but I'm satisfied that they were doing their best. Mum had a lot to answer for, but she never saw it like that.

I've never felt that way, in my life.

Yes, but for other reasons. I didn't know I had AS until earlier this year. I used to curse them for bringing me into this world. Of course, it's utterly useless and counterproductive.

Pretty mush the same for me. I had no idea why I was so 'different' and neither did they. I only knew that our family had a lot of secrets, and that I was always able to do some things better than the others kids, but couldn't grasp some of the things they picked up on so easily.

Yes, but not for the reason you describe.

I can't blame them for giving me AS as it was unknown in 1958 when I was born, and in any event genetics is such an amazing game of chance it's a wonder that ANY humans manage to reproduce.

However..................................................

If I ever get a chance to repay them for the warped, crazy, religious-centric upbringing that they gave me which left me totally unprepared to deal with the outside world then their feet are going to be rather close to the fires of hell for a very long time

Vanilla_Slice

No, but I know people whose parents believe that their children have been born with a disability because God is punishing them for a transgression, or punishing the child for sin in a previous life.

When I come across sane people like that, I am glad to have "disordered thinking" and psychotic breaks!

No, because I think they had it too. Besides, life is too short to hold a grudge.

No, I love my parents. and I don't really have a problem with my AS.

Same sort of...

I have my moments with my dad and for a long time he had problems with my AS but for now he kinda accepts it

Close to my mum though

No. It happens but I feel pretty crappy about it. My parent's don't deserve my anger. They least deserve it.

Sucks that I rarely have the chance to direct my anger at someone who truly deserves it.

No, my mom's very loving and I've never been angry with her - of course over little things as a child, but not any sort of deep anger. My father was difficult for me to get along with, but I realized at a certain point that my problems are my own and largely of my own making. No one intentionally made me the way I am. I choose to be happy and if I have a problem, I have to fix it. I can't go through my life blaming my dad for all my problems when he was around for only a fraction of my childhood. I've been around my life every second of everyday - I am the most culpable.

I prefer to take my anger out on God.